I heard my high schoolers in class today talking about a girl with problems with excessive body hair. I told them it hurts a lot to know that people are talking about you behind your back, and that even if she never found out about it, they shouldn't do it because it's unkind. They stopped, but I don't think they're convinced. What can I say the next time I hear such a thing?
2007-03-08 08:34:58 · 10 answers · asked by cucumberlarry1 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you cant ! they aren't mature enough to think like that. But you cant try talking to them about discrimination, and the fact that all humans all equal. Try making them ashamed for what they done!
2007-03-08 08:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by anka M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop other people from doing anything. The best you can do is set reasonable goals for yourself regarding kindness and compassion, and then practice them yourself. If you can do this and still be cool with the other kids, they will notice. Even if you don't change the way the whole school acts, they will see that you can be one of the cool kids without putting down everyone else.
You can also make a point to HANG with the people being talked about. That is, if they are nice people making good choices, many times the gossip you hear is about stuff that just doesn't matter...or isn't true. You sound like someone who has pretty decent moral fiber. You can hack it if you lose a few gossipy (fake) friends and make a good friend with a person who really needs some support? And who knows. You might end up bringing that person into your circle of friends...at the very least, with the person there with you, they can't gossip about her?
2007-03-08 08:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if this will work, but if you heard the kids talking about it in class, put the lecture on hold and invite the other classmates to volunteer embarrassing stuff (factual or opinion) about the gossipers and post it all on the board. Let them experience the embarrassment first hand. You can tell the class it's mean and nasty, and this is how it'll be handled in your class whenever you see such mean-spiritedness displayed.
2007-03-08 08:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by herogoggles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw that's so mean...here's something little, that will put them in there place, you always want to play a little reverse psychology on the girls that are talking about the other girl. Tell the girls that some other group of girls or guys (no names) were talking not good about them. Get them fired up in pleading with you about who was talking about them and what they actually said about them...tell them you can't say because it will hurt their feelings to much...let the girls take those words home, the next day...you could tell them the truth that you were just teaching them a lesson on not to talk about people.
note:In a few years the girl with excessive body hair will blume beautifully.It seems that the pretty girls in school will be ugly later in life and vice versa with not being so cute in school the girls will turn out beautiful...Thank God, I was not so cute in school...Iol
2007-03-08 09:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, i could almost print your question out and in simple terms promptly-out ask/tell them. Your in center college, so relationship won't be that quite some a controversy. I also have a buddy whose mom is plenty-too-overly strict. Now she acts out against her at each available 2d. She brings extra clothing to college to develop into and flirts with each boy available. in short, do no longer provide help to mothers and dads thoroughly administration and ban you from issues like relationship. as long as you keep your head on promptly and actual are a in charge individual, there should not be a situation.
2016-11-23 15:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, in our society, popularity is everything. It will be years before these kids have the empathy to comprehend how anyone other than they, personally, feel.
It's sad, it's a fact of life, it's the parent's fault (everything today is handed to young people). However, having a frank discussion with the group can't hurt.
2007-03-08 08:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by kentata 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's like trying to make the sky green. Teenagers will always do this pecking order bullsh*t. We are all subjected to the taunts and we all do a little taunting. It makes us who we are. I, for one, would never take back any of the nasty things that were said to me because I think they made me a more compassionate person (just not on Y!A =>).
2007-03-08 08:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually ask if they have spoken to the person that they're talking about directly. If someone is trying to be helpful, that's what they do. Otherwise, like you said, it's just hurtful.
2007-03-08 08:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if only it were possible. did you ever see mean girls? i think you get the idea. this kind of action has been going on from the beginning of time. there is no way of stopping it. sorry but it probably won't ever stop with them. just comfort anyone who is hurt by it. good luck.
2007-03-08 08:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by insane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant stop people from gosipping. i am a teen. i try my best not to gossip about others. what i've noticed is that people who are talking bad about people are low. they have nothing to do so they point out things wrong with people and can't keep it to themselves.
2007-03-08 09:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Smarkieee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋