As a teenager I was very well-behaved but now I'm wishing I had given trouble. I'm at university right now and living at home, I am desperately trying to get a job but that is quite hard here. My mother says the only males that can come here are my friends, she doesn't want anyone I am interested in to come here and when I tried to talk to her yesterday said that we can talk out in the street. This is really depressing me. I can't go by him anymore because he and his mother are at it, she wants him out. Honestly, he might not be good for me but he makes me feel good when he's around. I want to live my life, she tells me I can't choose a man for her but she wants to do that for me. She cares about what neighbours think. I love her but she is making me unhappy and when I try to talk to her she is laughing at me and shouting. What do I do?
2007-03-08 08:18:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Either move out or live by her rules. Your mother is just trying to protect you and will most likely never change.
Believe it or not, someday you will understand why she is this way.
2007-03-08 08:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by m_c_m_a_n 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well i'm going to be blunt so please don't take it the wrong way!
- suck it up your living under her house now you could try to work out a payment plan for your own freedom i know it sounds shady but if your paying a rent then you don't have to follow theh ouse rules! be very carefull with that!
- get your own place it may take a while but your 21 your old enought to do this your strong enought to do this.. i will tell you right now it will be HARD ask heck and scarry for a little but you will have to learn it sooner or later anyway!
- only love those who love you back!
Good luck!
2007-03-08 16:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up or move out.. Sorry I don't know what else to do if your mother is completely unreasonable. If she won't listen to you and respect your right to make your own decisions then don't let her. Try to find a job and walk there don't ask your mom for squate and if she doesn't like it too bad, as soon as you can, find a roomy and get out.
2007-03-08 16:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1.Find a job.You can't establish any independence without one.
2.Do what you want to do with this guy.Your statement about doubting he's any good for you shows that you're not likely to get entangled with him long term.
3.Live your life.You're young,sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.Don't wake up in ten or fifteen years and regret missing out on anything.
2007-03-08 16:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by Zapatta McFrench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move out. As fast as you can. Find any job at all, ask family if you can live with them.. anything to make mom realise that you make your own choices. this is emotional blackmail what your mother does. you live in my house, so I decide who you date or marry.... You Have To Make Your Own Choices... you are the one who needs to live yr life later on too... And you can do it too!! it may seem uncomfortable or scary at first, but you can!!
2007-03-08 16:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out if you are not happy. Your mom will come around and it will be rough for a while. Dont let your mom pick a man for you. You do what is right for yourself.
2007-03-08 16:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by hascht2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out! duh....! why u at home at 21, i know you're at school but there's always dorms! better yet round up some chick friends and rent an apt or house..then invite me over so i could mingle and show u and you're gal pals a good time!
2007-03-08 16:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Transfer to a school that is out of your city if you cannot afford to get your own apartment.
2007-03-08 16:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her house her rules. Try moving onto campus.
2007-03-08 16:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told her and she laughed at you, I know it's hard but get out A.S.A.P. even if it means moving in with friends.
2007-03-08 16:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋