thinking but not feeling?

Question

i think of her still after she turned me down months ago. i dont feel anything when i see her anymore, like im even too lazy to talk to her. i dont even anticipate to see her anymore, but she comes to mind still...is this normal or i just havent met someone new?

Answer 1

It sounds completely normal. You've gotten over her and have yet to meet someone new. Be patient. It will happen.

Answer 2

Feelings are affective states of consciousness, triggered by physiological changes arising from both sensory perceptions and memories in comparison to internally stored norms or ideals. Thinking, or the active comparing and contrasting of data, involves mental states that symbolize physiological changes and can be perceived as such.

Fear, for example, is an anticipation of injury to one's body, self image or goals. In healthy subjects, it is triggered by stimuli which indicate the presence of risk or direct danger. However, direct physical stimuli is not necessary. Thoughts and/or unconscious brain patterns can promote conditioned responses, where a feeling of fear could result from imagined situations when there is no direct threat present.

Perception of the physical world does not necessarily result in a universal reaction among receivers (see emotions), but varies depending on one’s tendency to handle the situation, how the situation relates to the receiver's past experiences, and any number of other factors (see further http://www.feelingdictionary.com).

Thoughts and feelings often coexist. A thought can be viewed as a comparing or contrasting of data items while a feeling is a visceral perception of the difference between the items. When a belief is attached to the cause of, or reason for the difference, the perception takes on a specifically labelled quality assigned by experience and called an emotion.

Harvard professor Abraham Maslow suggested that human beings are all born with an innate sense of positive and negative being-values. We are attracted to positive being-values such as justice, honesty, truth, beauty, humour, liveliness, power (but not abusive power), order (but not nit-picking), intelligence. Likewise, we are repulsed by injustice, death, ugliness, weakness, falseness, deceit, chaos, etc.

Maslow asserted that positive being-values are only definable in terms of all other positive being-values—in other words, we cannot maximize any virtue and let it contain some negative being-values without repulsion. For example, beauty that is associated with deceit becomes repulsive. Justice associated with cruelty is repulsive.

This innate capacity to feel attraction or repulsion forms part of the foundation for moral conscience—that is, feelings, perceived, help shape the individual's moral judgements.

The List is different from tradition to tradition. Tibetan Buddhism has a different list. It also needs to be understood that language also plays an important part in culturally defining feeling and different cultures have different way of perceiving and identifying feelings. some feelings in the list may not exist at all in a particular cultural-linguistic context.

Answer 3

Sounds like nothing a good "freakin" couldn't handle. I highly recommend getting yourself a little misses that will give you what you need instead of reminiscing on what could have been.

Answer 4

Vincent, it s quite normal. Unrequited love tends to be sticky like honey. You'll be OK and will rise to love another...in time.

Answer 5

it sounds as if you may be confused about your feelings.
Too me sounds also like you are TRYING too convince yourself too.
There's no big deal in caring and wanting someone.
And yes you probably just haven't FOUND that special someone!
You didn't say how old you are?
It's NOT a crime too date more then just one~~~ special someone!!!!!

Answer 6

i dont really know what to tell you... ive never had love... I will tell you this, though. It is better to move on. exes will always come to mind, so dont fret. just remember, if you dont feel like talking to her, then dont. it is a matter of your feelings and you alone.

Answer 7

It's very normal, especially for guys. You are harping on what might have been. She turned you down and somewhere in your mind, you are wanting to know why. Thanks.

Answer 8

well. i think it is abnormal ...you don't feel a thing for her and she still in your mind.perhaps it is anger and hatred you have for her cos she has truned you down ....it is normal if such things happen

Answer 9

Normal...it's impossible to forget someone whom you've had feelings for.

Answer 10

Your brain is just bored! once you meet someone else you wont even give her a second thought.