I'm 18 and work in a fairly small store. I get on very well with my 40 year-old boss, and we had a long chat at the Christmas social. He is divorced with a young daughter, and has commented about looking for a new girlfriend. He has suggested we should go out for a drink sometime- but I'm not sure whether I should see him outside work, as it doesn't take much to start rumours, and he is not that well-liked in the store. Should I accept his offer?
2007-03-08 08:08:55 · 44 answers · asked by tinx25388 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!!!! And this comes from a 54 year old guy (that's me). The age difference is too much. You may have genuine feelings for him, but I'm pretty sure that he's just looking for a "good time" from a pretty hot young thing.
Besides, he's your boss. If the relationship doesn't work out, and I assure you that it will not) then you're really screwed (no pun intented) at work.
This is an old guy's opinion about another older guy. But don't think of me as a prude. I'm definately not a prude. My GF is 17 years younger. But before we started seeing each other in a serious manner, we talked a long, long time about it. Perhaps when you get a little older and have had a chance to "find yourself" then seeing an older man would be OK.
But girl, you are just starting life. Learn what life is about before you start seeing someone much MUCH older. If you still feel this way when you're 25 (or better yet 30) then go for it.
Don't think so? Then just give it some time and watch him. He'lll start hitting on other women. And most of them will be young and pretty. None will be his age.
2007-03-08 08:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by phoenix_sfo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that he is your boss is largely irrelevant here. What's far more important is the 22 year age gap. And no, I am not 'ageist' before someone starts hurling abuse at me, but sadly, relationships with such a vast age difference rarely work long term.
Your boss should respect that, together with the fact that he is indeed your boss. Any half decent guy in his position probably wouldn't even go there.... You sound like you already know all this deep down, perhaps you just need to hear it from other people?
All the best!
2007-03-08 08:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lily & Stu Too 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good idea for several reasons, one, he is your boss and if there was other a problem between the two of you, you could find yourself out of a job. Two, while I don't normally think of age as an issue, he is 22 years older then you, his daughter is closer to your age then he is and she would probably have a problem with you being an authority figure in her life. Three, if you got together as a couple, you may find him bring his "boss" attitude home with him and treat you like an employee at home as well as at work.
2007-03-08 08:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see what you would have in common becuase of the age difference, that being said i would imagine he is after one thing, and it aint a drink and some nice conversation. he needs to find a woman hsi own age and you should find a guy closer to yours. Plus like you said you will probably get a reputation. Also if you did go out with him and you ever got a promotion at work everyone would assume its becuase you ere sleeping with the boss, even if you really deserved the promotion. It will just end up being more of a headache than its worth
2007-03-08 08:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumors and his not being well-liked notwithstanding, it is a very bad idea to get involved with a co-worker let alone your boss. I'm not too concerned with the age difference either, except to say what, besides sex, would you have in common? You are just beginning your life and he's in the middle of his. He has children and you are just barely a child yourself. What I'm saying is there are bigger issues to worry about than your fellow co-workers yapping behind your back - because really, who cares, it's your life and your choice. But if you have aspirations of working there for awhile and possibly moving up, a relationship with him could make or break those aspirations. Be careful and whatever you decide, I wish you luck.
2007-03-08 08:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. Try not to be "that girl" that goes out and sleeps with the boss. Which is probably inevitable if you're already thinking this hard about it so....
Go get everything you can out of him. Have him buy you nice things. Schedule you only the shifts you want to work, and then sit in the back the whole time and watch tv or something. When he comes to you and asks if you want to do some work threaten to stop seeing him
2007-03-08 08:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by jesse d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My take: I know how tempting it must be for your boss (been there) and from a second-person point-of-view I know how tempting it must be for you.
Having said that-BAD IDEA! Seriously, too many things can go wrong. It might be fun, exciting and all that, but it's way to dangerous to date your boss. IMO, that's a bigger issue than the age difference.
2007-03-08 08:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. Your to young to be in a relationship with anyone much less someone that is in his 40's. I am 32 and my BF is 56. Older men tend to be controlling and set in there ways. You should still be out having fun at your age.
2007-03-08 08:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No! that is just wrong. he could get married before u were even born! now hun... there is too much of a difference with u guys. Just go for some guys ur age. it will be much better because u will have much more in common.
2007-03-08 08:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are legal adults but make sure there are no company ethics policies against a boss fraternizing with an employee. He could lose his job.
2016-04-09 12:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋