Last year my mother-in-law told me that she didn't consider me a daughter. She said she considered her other daughter-in-law to be one of her own, but she didn't have the same affection for me. The reason she used was that it was probably because my parents are still alive. Do I still have to call her on mother's day?
2007-03-08 08:05:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i dont think that you have to but it would be a poliet and nice thing to do...
2007-03-08 08:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your Mother-in-law, told you that she did not considered you like a daughter, but she did to the other Daughter-in-law,because as she said that you still had both your Parents, living, and to add fuel to the fire, she did not have any affection for you, like she did to the other Daughter-in-law. Why did she have to be so mean, to you. she really wanted to hurt your feelings. You also mentioned, that after what she told you, should you wish her a Happy Mothers day. What does your Husband say about this, did you mentioned to him what she told you? I f I were you i would call her on that day to wish her well on her day, because maybe she will eat crow, she will start thinking that after what she told you, you still had the heart to call her. I am telling you this, because my Mother-in-law, used to ignored us Daughters-in-law a lot, because we were Eleven altogether, and she had three, daughters of her own, her Heart was with her Daughters, which to me I did not mind, because I did not want her good graces, toward me, I was Happy with my Husband and my Family, but, I was always gracious toward her, and with time she started to change not, only to me but with the rest of the daughters-in-law. As long as your Husband takes your side, and is loyal to you , I do not think you should be worrying about this problem. If she does not appreciate the Wife, his Son has, to bad for her. I hope that my words helped you some.
2007-03-08 08:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card (out of respect for your hubby) but I wouldn't bother calling. If she says anything remind her about what she said and tell her you would love to consider her like a mother but not if the feelings aren't returned. And what does your parents being alive have to do with anything, I was always taught you can never have too much family.
2007-03-08 08:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard when you don't have a good relationship with your mother in law. My ex's mom was a total b**** but I called her just so it could piss her off LOL
My mother in law now... she is the most wonderful lady I could ever want in my life. I'm sending this one flowers and a card right along with my own mom.
2007-03-08 09:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very nice if you would call her but if you feel you can't send her a nice card.
The most important thing is that her son calls her.Hopefully one day you can resolve your differences so it is important for you to be respectful to her and not say or do anything you will regret later. Try to stay neutral with the other daughter-in-laws as well.
2007-03-08 08:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes u should do it,may b she dont consider u as a daughter but u should do it .A mother can stay annoied 4 long.Force her to love u ,By showing how much u care.
2007-03-08 08:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if she feels that way about you (not considering you a daughter) then why would you feel obligated to call her?? I wouldn't because I know she would not appreciate it. Also you don't need to beg for her affection. Good luck.
2007-03-08 08:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That wasn't very nice of her to tell you that.. Those kind of things people can keep to themselves... but since she said it, the I would say "No" don't call her!... If anyone ever asks why, then tell them because she doesn't consider you a daughter at all..
2007-03-08 08:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't call. my mother in law hates me too and i can see it because she shows the other daughter in law affection and not me. it hurts but i guess that is our luck.
2007-03-08 11:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is slender-mindedness on both you and the mother-in-regulation. yet contained in the pecking order, she is the elders so that you'll recognize her by technique of calling her first. You as mom of her grandchildren could play 2d to her as mom of your husband.
2016-12-05 10:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i would have your husband call her and have him say happy mothers day on both of your behalfs. if you want to be the better person, i would call her and wish her a happy mothers day anyways. barring a divorce, youll have to deal with this woman for many years to come, so you might as well make nice.
2007-03-08 08:21:12 · answer #11 · answered by cookie_monster 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋