My best friend has the sweetest boyfriend ever. I'm not even kidding, he is so wonderful and amazing, and they are the perfect couple. The thing is my friend doesn't like him like him like that, like as a bf. she only likes him as a friend. She wants to break up with him, but its really hard for her, b/c they've been together for five 1/2 months, and he thinks the world of her. He loves her so much, he even wants to marry her once they are old enough. She is his world! I keep telling her just to get it over with but she doesnt want to hurt him. how can she break up w/ him w/o making him go gothic or something???
2007-03-08 07:58:19 · 28 answers · asked by horsesareforever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like a great guy. but if your friend doesnt break up with him soon hes just gonna get more attached. tell her that shes hurting him more by staying with him. everyday she stays with him, hes gonna think he loves her more. she needs to break up with him gently and then just be what he wants, a friend or gone. her other alternative is to tell him that she wants a break, from personal experience this doesnt work too well (i kinda got a bit hurt by a break) personally ive learned that they're stupid but it might help ease him out of the relationship. Good luck!!!!
2007-03-08 08:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Katrina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate when this happens.......
She definately has to stop the affection toward him and throw a few hints that it's kind of hard for her to kiss him because for some odd reason she thinks of him like a brother.
Miss a few calls, slow things way down so he starts getting the idea that something is changing
and then...... just tell him the truth.
Poor guy, needs to be let down easy!!!
2007-03-08 08:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should just be honest with him, and not make this go longer than it already is! next thing she knows its been a year theya re together and she still has not said anything - She needs to make him understand and talk to him nicely - he wont go gothic, he needs to be mature about it... not all the time 2 people fall in love the same way! so things like this do happena nd they have to act like an adult!
2007-03-08 08:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question you are asking is how can your best friend break up with a guy in such a way that he will fall into your arms. He has history with her, devotion to her, love for her and a desire to marry her. It would be impossible not to hurt him, but I would tread lightly here. Your ulterior motive could backfire on you. You must confide to your friend your feelings for her boyfriend--feelings that you have in no way acted on---she must truly believe that. Ask her if there is anything you can do for her. Then just let it be. You will not have broken any confidences and you have been honest.
2007-03-08 08:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She can get a friend to tell him that it is over. Do YOU like tis guy at all? Maybe your friend can find someone that likes him a lot, and try to get the boyfriend to break up with your friend, so that way, no one gets hurt, and the boyfriend will be happy with someone else.
2007-03-08 08:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by ivory_plr 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the onlt thing she can do , is if she doesnt want him, she needs to break up with him, he's going to be hurt wrose , if she keeps going out with him, just tell her , to tell him, that she's not happy and that he's a very great guy , and someday he will make a girl very happy.
2007-03-08 08:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's gonna hurt him any way she does it so she might as well get it over with so she can stop pretending to feel the same way. She should let him know that it was nothing he did wrong, she just doesn't love him like that.
2007-03-08 08:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Fernando 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say this but you really need to stay out of that. You should not even be thinking about getting with him after she is finished with him. Friends don't go out with other friends old women/men. That's just my opinion off limits for the old lovers.
2007-03-08 08:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would say, "I really like you, I just at this point don't wan't the bf/gf relationship anymore. But I still want us to be good friends. I like you very much, as a friends... I hope you understand..." Or something like that... they can stay friends... it dons't mean they can never see eachother again.
Hope that helps.
2007-03-08 08:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jesus freak 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She should really write down all the reasins why she wants to break up with him. Then she should write down all the reasons she likes him. If the number of reasons she likes him is equal or greater to the number of reasons of why she wants to break up with him, then she should give him another chance. I f she has more bad ones than good ones, she has to break up with him.
2007-03-08 08:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by Silvia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋