i have this guy i met,we started dating and then we broke up. now he still tells me he loves me and we talk on the phone every night but i dont know what to do? he dont want to be with me well he says he dont know but then he tells me he loves me... he has cheated on my twice in almost 5 months. i like him a lot i just dont know what to do or say and i dont want him to think i put my life on hold waiting for him... he comes home from work tonight off his new job that he has been gone for 2 weeks and he wants to come over but i think that he may jus want to sleep with me. what should i do,say, and how should i act?
2007-03-08 07:52:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run, Run and run fast. you don't need him.
2007-03-08 07:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow- I want you to re-read your question. Now think-if a friend of yours said this to you what would you say? And I don't want to hear "But I REALLY like him" because that means nothing. All that says about you is that you are so unhappy with youself that you are willing to let yourself be treated like crap. Look at what you said-
"he has cheated on my twice in almost 5 months" That is more then a red flag- that is a red flag that hit you in your skull so hard that you may be out cold for hours.
Maybe that's your problem. Don't walk into the white light!!! come back!!
read this
"he dont want to be with me well he says he dont know but then he tells me he loves me"
I want to tell you this in the most real way- I am not trying to make you sad but- you need to know what people think of that
People read that and they go one or the other way-
1. they feel sorry for you for being so dumb with your life- or
2. they laugh good and hard. the seciond people are crule- but they laugh because they don't know what it is like to be dumb over a guy.
I was a dumb girl who grew up and had a great life. You can to. you just have to start by getting some self respect- looking back and seeing that you WERE dumb and just not live like that anymore.
you ask "and how should i act?"
DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM!
that is how you should act.
do not let him in your house,
do not spend time with him-
do not talk to him unless it's to tell him to leave you alone. Do not pass go-
do not collect 200-
it's over.
and never act like you can't help it. that is what can make you look dumb-
(because it is dumb)
you have comtrole over every little thing you do. he is not magic,
he can not pull a rabit out of his hat and he can not make you do anything you don't want to do.
take some time and look at who you are now- and ask what you want to be in 20 years- then become that person, to the best of your ability now.
2007-03-08 08:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by JenGem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LET HIM COME OVER. He is just using you for companionship. He has stated he does not want to be with you and I am guessing that this is the truth. He is going to come over today, sleep with you, and leave, and then you are going to be feeling worthless and dumb because I told you not to do it. Save yourself the trouble and just say no or don't pick up your phone. You are making yourself too available for this gu. Why does he need to be with you if he is getting all the perks of a relationship without actually being in one? You are worth more than that sweetie. Trust me. You need to let him know that you don't want him calling you anymore until he is ready to decide if he wants to be with you or not. He cannot have his cake and eat it too. Plus he cheated on you twice!!! why do you want to be with him anyway? He cheated on you and he is not treating you well now from what I can see, so it is obvious to me that he does not really respect you. One reason he may not respect you is because you do not value and respect yourself. Men will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. always remember that. That goes for any lady out there. Until you know your worth no one else can. Good luck
2007-03-08 08:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lady A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to say this guy is a jerk. in my opinion you should drop him, FAST! hes just seeing how far he can push you before you say " hey listen i'm sick of this. you either have me or everyone else. but no way can you have both!" n then follow through. if you really think it can work, play hard to get. i bet if you think bout it everytime he calls, you pick up. n everytime he asks you to do something you say yes. try saying no a few times. guys like games, so play with him for a bit! good luck, n don't let him make a fool out of you!
2007-03-08 08:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Katrina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me....he is NOT worth it. if he loved you the way he says he does he would WANT to be in a relationship with you(and not cheat on you once, but twice). I would tell him that I would just want to be friends(if that)...nothing more...no girl deserves to be put on the back burner. Trust me..you will find a guy that loves you just the way you are and who will want to make you their priority. good luck :)
2007-03-08 08:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on u twice...you probably shouldn't talk to him anymore. I dont know why u stay playing this game with him. You already know nothing good will come of this.
2007-03-08 07:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u allow him to come over hear him out but absolutely not have sex with him. Don't let him stay either and do not let him into ur room. If he has nothing to talk about then its obvious what he came over for and kindly ask him to leave.
2007-03-08 07:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's keeping you on the side, so that if he can't be with anyone else he still has you.
Tell him you arn't interested in anything sexual and that until he wants to be with you ya'll will have to just maintain a freindship.
2007-03-08 07:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by neicee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
faux to produce different plans. whether you relatively don't have plans in basic terms be like, "oh, i've got gotta help my mom with this difficulty." If he asks you back, make a clean excuse. i think of after awhile he gets the factor because of the fact in case you have been particularly interested in him you may say "i've got have been given this difficulty I gotta help my mom with, yet i'm going to help her yet another day." yet another tactic is to tell him your "kinda" seeing somebody. that doesn't advise which you have a boyfriend yet which you're in touch a minimum of. i does not advise which you tell him the fact ("i do no longer wanna date you cuz you have a double-chin") cuz that would in basic terms injury his thoughts unnecessarily--on occasion, that is extra effectual to tell a splash white lie than to make somebody sense like s**t.
2016-09-30 09:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, that guy sounds like a real loser. I say ditch. You'll find a better guy out there, who'll treat you a million time better than this guy ever will. And you won't find that guy unless you move on.
(really disdain cheaters.)
2007-03-08 07:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Leon Clemens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some puunanny then learn to spell and never again thing of him cheating on you
2007-03-08 07:56:13 · answer #11 · answered by Mic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋