...this tradition set-up by my ancestors that the males of the family leave home at 21. Plus, I'm helping my adopted sister take care of our younger siblings and I still am handy around the house. Should I have followed what culture says and break the vicious cycle, or should I keep our family tradition?
By the way, in our family tradition, girls leave home at 19. That's why my twin sister is in Vermont (our birthplace and hometown) while I'm with the rest of the family here in California.
2007-03-08 07:49:34 · 19 answers · asked by Chichiri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well sometimes u need to get ur priorites straight and forget about this family traditon. If your helping out ur sister and need to stay around the house for alittle while then thats what u should do. When the time is right and things arent so hectic then u can move out on ur own but for now stay settled with ur parents until everything is calm and u can be ready to move out. Dont be pressured by others to move out when ur not completely finished with ur home life. Hope I Helped!
2007-03-08 07:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Brittany l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life; do what makes you happy. I mean I'm 19 and still at home. I'm close to my college and work, and I save nearly $800 a month on rent. So you have to look at your options. Right now, can you afford to be off completely on your own? Do you want to stay and help your parents? Then you have to find out if you agree with your family culture or society's culture. If you go by your family's then you really don't have much longer until it's time for you to leave anyways. Just do what's best for you.
2007-03-08 08:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's right for you. If your family tradition is one of your high priority values, follow the traditions. If you have a personal preference for living on your own, move out (but if it would upset your family, be prepared to deal with that). If staying with your family works well for all of you, by all means stay, even past 21.
2007-03-08 07:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with tradition and say screw it to the cultural issue. I moved out when I was 20 but I moved in with my sister and lived with her until I was 22. Many people nowadays stay home longer, mostly because it's cheaper with costs of college rather than a dorm or an apartment...most parents will allow it too as long as their kid is being a responsible adult and not causing issues. Stay where you are until you're 21 and ready...don't cave into society.
2007-03-08 07:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its up to you really..if you think that your family can manage without you and you are desperate to leave your folks, by all means do so. But ...if your family really need you, why not stay longer..it wouldn't hurt,right?? and besides you are 20 and 21 is just around the corner so why not wait for sometime.....
and another piece of advice:- traditions are meant to be followed but if you do not follow them its not a crime.....IF its for the better....
2007-03-16 01:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you do not want to leave and if there is no issue of you leaving any time soon than I would wait until it is time to decide this. You seem to be involved with your family right now and that is a good thing. When the time is right it doesn't matter if you are 22 1/2 :)
2007-03-15 06:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sylvia T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law set in stone that you have to leave home at 18. You should keep the family tradition if that's what you are comfortable with and if you feel that it's what you want to do. If you want to stay with your family, then you should stay with them until you feel you're ready to leave the nest. If you feel smothered or repressed by this tradition, and you want it to change, then you should sit down with your family and talk to them about how you feel. If they love you they will care about how you feel, even if they don't agree with it.
2007-03-08 07:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by Preston S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Culture doesn't say you should do anything. Times change. It's more difficult for many to leave their parents' home as quickly as they'd like. For others, they leave before 18. It's up to the individual involved and the circumstances within their family.
2007-03-08 07:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sinclair 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure about Alabama law but Ohio law is at 18 years old a foster child is legally an adult and free to move out.
2016-03-28 23:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky to have such a strong cultural history and if it isn't hindering your career or romantic life, I say embrace it! Time enough to move out and be on your own. Enjoy your family as an intregal part of it, not just as a visitor, while you can,
Dee
2007-03-15 01:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Dee C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋