Will I be alone forever?

Question

I just ended a 2 yr. relationship. I am so stressed now, I did not really want to end it but I was not getting along with my bf. I still miss him and love him, but he does not want to communicate at all with me , he says he hates me..He broke up with me,,.I am 21 years old. All my friends have bf's and I am all alone:(

I am not pretty , my nose is kind of big and I am alittle chubby and shy,

I don't know what to do

Answer 1

First off stop being so damn hard on yourself. Stop dwelling over some dumbass that didnt realize what he had. Just be yourself and you will find the man of your dreams. Learn to love yourself. How can anyone else love you if you dont love yourself. good luck.

Answer 2

Right now, the best thing for you to do is NOTHING. Anything you do will be out of desperation or loneliness. It is never a bad idea to spend a little time alone, to get to know yourself and be independent. In this way, you come to realize that you are a BEAUTIFUL person, regardless of how your nose looks, or anything else about how your outer person looks! It is how your spirit and your heart is that should guide you.

You are only 21, and you have spent 2 years with the same person. You have barely reached adulthood, and have not had a chance to see anything of the world. Be FREE! See what's out there, and be brave! The world is an exciting and wonderful place, and there are millions of people in it. The odds of your finding Mr. Right at such a young age are so small, especially since you probably never traveled, or looked around at all!

My advice (stern Mother look) -- go on a trip, face your fears, and see what happens. Have an adventure and know that you are a beautiful and vibrant young woman with lots to offer. If you think it, it will be!!

Answer 3

Listen to how you describe yourself!!! I promise you I am not being mean but it doesn't take a psychiatrist to figure out that you have some serious issues going on in terms of your self esteem. First--EVERYONE has issues when breaking up with someone they have been with for two years!!! The process is similar to the steps of dealing with a death (denial, resentment/anger, sadness and acceptance). This is something you will have to go through, but how you come out on the other side is completely up to you!!

Secondly, your self worth is in no way connected to whether you have a boyfriend or not!!! I would spend this time to focus on learning to love myself!! I bet once you get that point you'll look back and wonder why you were ever with him! The truth is people only treat you the way you treat yourself--I know it may sound preachy but the truth is the truth, If you don't learn to love yourself the way you should no one will ever treat you the way you deserved to be.

Lastly--reinvent your self, find a new hobby, get into fashion--exercise and read books that help you get to that place of self love. Once you get there, Honey I promise you all your girlfriends will be jealous of how much fun and attention you are getting from all the cuties--I PROMISE!!!!

Answer 4

If you think that you both are still in love you can approach him again. If not try to get out of that relationship and concentrate on something that interests you. You will certainly meet your soul mate. Looks does nto matter dear, it is the good heart that always gets noticed. If you are still worried about your looks, then probably you can meet a beautician and try to do a makeover which does not show your nose as big as it is. All I can say is, your love will never go in vain. Good luck dear

Answer 5

Hold your chin up and get out there and love being single. Now is the time to do things for yourself. If you feel bad about the way you look, devote all of your time to going to the gym and get into shape and work on hanging out with yourself and your friends. Then when the time comes, put a big middle finger in your ex's face and tell him to f*ck off and thank him for dumping you cause it's the best thing that's ever happened to you. He will feel like crap and you will feel better than you ever have. Good luck.

Answer 6

Im in the same position but we parted friends.You somehow have to move on, but never put yourself down. You are as good as anyone else. Believe in yourself and things will work out. It does take time though, although you wont believe it at the time. Have an interest or hobby and keep your mind occupied. Live your own life and enjoy it, its precious is life. And one day, you see the light. I didnt think i ever would , but you do, and thats from experience and i was in a very deep hole of depression so you will do it tell yourself you will. Move on in your time but never give up all the best m

Answer 7

The right guy for you will come along soon enough, in the mean time, work on your self image. You are being way to hard on yourself, if you think your a little chubby, do something about it, excercise or diet, but dont do it for anyone else or to find a man, just do it to make yourself feel better. Think about it, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Answer 8

What you look like is not important to anyone who really cares. You sound beautiful.

Most everybody goes through what you are going through right now. It's a bad time. Your true friends will support you. Take your time, remain open to new people and do things that make you happy.

Don't listen to those who say forget your ex and move on. Let your heart tell you when it's time.

You are never alone.

Answer 9

It's not the end of the world. There's plenty of men out there looking for women...and your only 21.
It's good to get a bit of experience anyway! Once you meet another man maybe you'll realise what you have been missing..

Answer 10

No you will not be alone forever. I was single for 3 years after a break up. i used that time to move into my own apartment, go back to school and join the gym... make yourself totally busy. you are young and do not NEED a guy in your life to feel important.
to mention details about your outer appearance, means u have to work on yourself from the inside out.... because its on the inside that counts.. join a gym, or hobby... just keep busy and mr right will come.... trust me!!!