who here would commit suicide if they found out...?

Question

that they are infertile? i have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. at 16 he got me pregnant and becuase i was so young and wanted to live my life first i had an abortion. I have regreted it every day since. I found out last week that my boyfriend has been cheating on me and i have chalmydia, ghonorea and herpes. It has gone so long undeteced that i am now infertile. the reason for life is to have children. i want to die, i really dont see the point in living. This is Gods punishment for me after killing my unborn baby. I was stupid. I am in a really good uni and i am a good looking girl but these things just dont matter.
honestly, who here would commit suicde if they were infertile?

Answer 1

Suicide is never they way to handle any situation, it is the cowards way out. Think of this as gods way of taking care of some of his many children who have no parents, maybe he is telling you that you should adopt one or more of these children. It could also be that it is gods way of telling you that any children you may have had would have had birth defects and he is saving you from suffering through this because he has other plans for you.

Answer 2

I am a religious person and I am 100% against abortion but GOD would never punish you,GOD is all love. You should not have had an abortion but you know that now so good for you.With that said you need to GET UP! and dust yourself off we all make mistakes, suicide is just another one you would regret as much if not more than the abortion.Get rid of that good for nothing loser of a boyfriend and stay single for a while. Take up something new, I know you are down on yourself right now so it is time to re-invent yourself.The situation you are in right now can destroy you or can make you 1000x better. It is up to you, make the right choice and when you are ready and have a real man in your life there is a child out there ( maybe not even born yet ) who needs you to adopt them and be thier mom. Peace and be strong. And when you feel like you can talk about it tell anyone who contemplates having an abortion your story.

Answer 3

I'm 31 and I found out 2 years ago I cant have kids. I went into a deep depression, so i know how hard it is to coup with. But it's not worth killing yourself over. If you have so much to give a child, you really should consider adoption. There are 1000's of children who could use someone that serious about having a child in their life. Believe me, i know its not what you want to hear. But you could really make a huge difference in a childs life. You would go from feeling unimportant, to being that childs everything. Try and stay strong

Answer 4

Chlamydia and gonorrhea are cureable.

I am sorry so to hear you have herpes. Remember that is can be transmitted through saliva and from mouth to groin and vice versa (even if not active). PLEASE be respectful of others and do not drink off someones cup or the like. You think its horrible to have gotten it, so don't give it to someone else. TELL any potential partners, okay.

There is no reason to kill yourself over this. Yes, you are going to be depressed for a while and will think about the abortion for the rest of your life....But

You are being too hard on yourself. Lots of women have abortions and do not get diseases, so don't blame God as punishing you. HE (the lying asshole) did this to you!

Doctors are wrong all the time! Both my parents were told they were infertile, I'm here and I have a brother and a sister by them.

Although I think it would be morally wrong to try to have a child now having herpes (incureable, painful, virus), what wrong with loving the people that are here now? You could adopt or take in a foster child someday. I have a sister who got herpes from her first boyfriend, first sexual encounter. Very sad. She couldn't conceive and went to a fertility doctor. She has two kids, although I disagree with her having them since she has herpes and may have given it to them. We don't know and she wouldn't have their blood tested because she doesn't care. She cared about what she wanted which was to have kids. I have scoliosis, and wouldn't have kids, because they could get it. It is painful.

Being infertile is not a reason to kill yourself. We all have situations occur in our lives we wish didn't. We all have made decisions we wish we didn't. That is part of learning. I know. You are young and think it is so bad that you want to die. We have all felt like that in our teens and it still happens when you're an adult.

The reason for living is not to have kids. What about the others that can't or don't have them? Does that mean they are a mistake because they can't procreate? No. There is a reason for everything, even if you don't know what it is.

Answer 5

Meoi, God is not vengeful, and He would never "punish" you for your sins. Jesus Christ was sent to us here on Earth to pay for our sins, so that we wouldn't have to. Everything happens for a reason, even if we do not always understand that reason. God has a plan for us all, and He has a plan for you. There are different means of having children. God wants you to pursue those other ways. Suicide is the ultimate sin, and once you have committed that sin, there is no turning back. Suicide will solve nothing. It will only leave those who love you behind. Pray on it, and He will show you the way. God bless you and take care.

Answer 6

I wouldn't if I could. So many things in life. The whole reason all this happened was that you got pregnant at the age of 16. Adoption is probably the best idea, why commit suicide?

Answer 7

Wow, that is a tough situation. I am unsure what I would do in that case. In a way, you are right. Nothing can bring back the boy or the baby. In a way, your daughter is right - the family will forever wonder "why". Putting myself in the families position, I think I would like to know why, even after finding out the baby was aborted. True there is nothing that can be done, but it will put the families mind at ease (somewhat) knowing that they didn't do anything wrong, and the reason the boy did what he did. I would have to agree with your daughter. Just when you tell the family, be respectful in how you break all the news.

Answer 8

Never! You really need to get these silly thoughts and that nasty boyfriend out of your head. First off, you are still so very young and you shouldn't be worrying about having babies yet. Get your education first and foremost, find a GOOD guy and look to starting a family in your late 20's/early 30's. If your body still produces eggs than you can have a surrogant mother or you could adopt. There are MILLIONS of children who need homes. Once you are established you can also think about being a foster mom and if you click than you can adopt them!

Answer 9

God does not punish us for our actions. Please believe that.

Your life is worth living. You can help others with the same decision (abortion) you had to make at a young age and let them know all the consequences of that choice.

Keep in mind that you may meet someone who already has children and you would be a mom, or you could adopt a child later in life when you are ready to be a mom.

Keep in mind that no one can answer that question honestly unless they have been or are in your position. We can always say what we would do but we really don't know until we are faced with the situation. I hope you hear from others who are infertile and are happy to be living as they have and are contributing to many, many lives, including children.

God can make so much good come out of this tragic situation. Please allow him to do so!

Answer 10

You're not being punished for anything — except, maybe, for having a boyfriend who would knock you up and cheat on you later. It was the right thing to do, anyway. You wouldn't make a good mother at 16. Nobody would. Besides, it's better to adopt children these days. The last thing we need is more people.