Should I try to do something about this issue with my parents?

Question

I'm 24, graduated, have a job, for now live alone. My relationship w/ my parents was completely destroyed when I was 14, because I went through a bad phase, by their fault I became a problem girl, they were too harsh, proved they didn't love me. We used to fight a lot, they were kinda unfair and made me so mad that I was disrespctful and then they punished me, no understanding, love, just imposed their authority, really bad parents. They even sent me to a boarding school, a crime. My life got much better when I went to college, where I was a great student. I left home the same day I graduated. Needless to say I hate my parents. I did my best to write them off my life, but to my despair they keep calling and emailing me. A few times I agreed to talk w/ them, but all I did was yell at them and show alll my anger without any qualms, which I couldn't do when I was under their law. Im' usually a very kind and loving young woman, but when it come s to my parents I'm all anger and hatred

Answer 1

Your parents did the best they could for you, you admittedly acted out, you need therapy to learn to own up to YOUR actions not your parents. They did nothing to you other than be strict. You need to learn to control your anger and be able to open up to your parents. They obviously love you and care otherwise they wouldn't have made an effort to contact you. You even say all you do is yell at them yet they still love you. This will eat at you for the rest of your life if you don't learn to cope with your feelings toward your parents and learn to speak with them. Good Luck!

Answer 2

It really sounds like you need to see a therapist. It may help to get some of your anger out and find a firm stepping stone to start a relationship with your parents as an adult. Nobody is perfect. You need to release your anger and say everything out loud to someone else not involved so that you can work this out for yourself and then after that if you want to have a relationship with them start fresh and not in the past.

Answer 3

I think there is a big misunderstanding and miscommunication here between parents and daughter.
It is best you go for counselling first. Then meet your parents with your councelor if possible.
Your parents maybe now regret what they have done.
In the world, parents usually want the best for their children.
Forgive them if they have made mistake, give them smile and show that you love them even tough there is a gap.
They do not live forever. I know is not easy, but try.
When you treat someone nice, they will treat you nice as well. Life is like an echo of sound.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Anger and hatred is usually transferred onto someone we know deep down will love us no matter what - when we can't face the real source of those emotions.

I would talk to your parents if you can about how you feel and why - If not, ask a meadiator to help you.

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Answer 5

You might want to talk to a therapist first. At least get rid of the anger towards them, even if the relationship doesn't get much better. Hatred is awful hard on a person.

Answer 6

You might want to consider writing to your parents that way they cannot say anyting as you write it will help with some of that anger and have you ever considered a shrink they help.

Answer 7

buy an apple and and knife and stab it it may sound retarded but it works then ask your self have i had good things happen to me if the answer is yes remind yourself you are her through your moms hard labor (CHILD LABOR0)