I've been dating my current bf on and off for 2 years..the past year we were good ...serious,in love,nothing can go wrong..toward the end of 06 things took a turn... we broke up..he needed to think about things... I moved on,I was done being pushed back and forth...I went out one weekend with the girls,and met some1,attractive,funny,met all my reqirements..or so I thought. He kept me occupied while I was a recently single girl...we got physically involved,and made me not think about my ex not once... not to long after the new beau and I started meeting...the ex calls back confessin his love..he regrets everything...boo hoo... and the story goes on... so knowin he was vulnerable ..one night I called him after a night out,becuz the new boy didn't answer his phone...I drove 2 the ex's house for a lil attention/lovin...and jetted out the next mornin,without sayin bye I didn't feel bad watsoever,and still don't till this day.we are currently workin on the relationship.... My question 2 all u is, why don't I feel guilty about doin wat I did and y is it still so easy for me to let him go?? Heartless?? Or just over it?
2007-03-08 07:38:43 · 9 answers · asked by bostonzerosix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
....experiences with this particular guy have taught you the behavior of not caring much about this individual too much. You've been hurt by him before,...so trust issues and red flags fly ominously when you're in his presence. I'm not all that surprised really hun. It's apparent the sex with him isn't bad though...but sex ain't everything for you either. He's sorry,...you're sorta kinda feeling sorry too...but in the long run you'll both be back to the same kinds of behaviors as before. People don't change much hun...not even when they feel guilty do they change completely. Don't feed his ego by serving him up some occasional sex hun...unless YOU want to willingly. YOU be in charge of YOU...and no one else really. He'll learn to get over you...eventually. We all do ya know. Be nice to both of you and explain why you're not coming back to him. Begging and desperation look sad on anyone babe. Don't make it look like you're the sad one....he is though!
2007-03-08 07:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's half your ex's fault for not seeing that you're a btch/whre and half your fault for being a btch/whre. Perhaps harsh words but if you feel no guilt....
Embrace who you are I guess. Don't expect find true love or anything of the sort though. Just a bunch of fools that can't see what's coming at them. Or guys who just want some bedside company for a few months.
The truth can be rough sometimes. Cheating on your current boyfriend and using your old one at the same time while causing him to think you still like him. All the while not caring about anyone but yourself. You should be a lawyer.
2007-03-08 15:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over with the ex boyfriend then you need to leave him alone totally no booty calls or nothing. Let him just go without and keep on missing you. Otherwise you can still keep doing what you doing but you can't expect him to leave you alone any time soon. He'll keep calling you becaue he knows that there is a possibility that he can get you.
2007-03-08 15:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not Hartless, I think you are over it.
If you were still "in love" with your ex, you would feel some guilt, at least a little, the fact that you were able to sleep with another guy without even thinkink about your ex should be your answer.
If your ex still loves you, be honest with him and tell him that you don't share his feelings. It's not necessary to cary on with the relatioship only so that one of yuo can get hurt at the end
2007-03-08 15:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you are heartless, but not for what you did to your ex, but what you did to your new guy! YOU CHEATED on him. And you dont even care. You see thats what makes it so hard for guys to find a nice girl.
2007-03-08 15:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Broken21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you find yourself searching for how to feel, then you are over it. If you love him you wouldnt have to try to feel bad. End it now before it gets more complicated. He started this, maybe he will know better next time.
2007-03-08 15:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by krysmaslily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girlfriend you are sooooooo over him, keep moving forward and don't go back. You are not heartless.
2007-03-08 15:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him what happened and try to work it out.
you arent heartless. hes just not "the one"
2007-03-08 15:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just over it
2007-03-08 16:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by catseyes1976 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋