My husband has major anger problems. He's impatient, gets very angry when he doesn't get his way, flips out when I take too long to get something done or if I repeat myself. Like if I told him something about what happened at work and then the next day I say something about it again, he gets really nasty and very short with me and says something like...for the second and thrid time, I heard you. I have to drive because he's very impatient with other drivers and has also gotten pulled over once for throwing something out of his window at another car that he claims cut him off. I don't believe it because I know his anger issues. I love this man and we've only been married for a little over 3 months. He's a great guy and we get along great. I just can't take this anger issue and not having the paticence for me or what I have to say. We always end up in a fight about something from this. What should I do? Anyone have this same problem? Do you think he needs to get help? Thanks.
2007-03-08 07:29:20 · 7 answers · asked by Michele K 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Typo above. I meant to say that I do believe that he threw something at the car because I know how his temper is.
2007-03-08 07:31:08 · update #1
I think I should have mentioned that he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. It's been almost 2 years for him now. I didn't know him during his wild days and have only known him after the fact. Do you think it could be a sign of him missing that life style?
2007-03-08 07:47:35 · update #2
Anger is often a MISSED symptom of depression, and is sometimes the only symptom of depression. There are excellent psychiatric meds that address the anger problems. Zyprexa is one of them. There are many more. Go to a psychiatrist. I guarantee you he will be a changed man. This is probably not his fault at all. He probably doesn't want to be the way he is. Please help him get help.
2007-03-08 07:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by cowabunga mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get tired of walking on eggshells, you can get a divorce.
The only way you can work this out is if he sees the problem. If he thinks you are just nagging him again, he thinks that you are the problem. Does it seem like you are always the problem--even when he screws up royally, it's all your fault? These are the signs of a control freak.
Fighting with you actually pulls you in more rather than driving you apart. If he doesn't start treating you with respect, if he can't take the time to let you vent for a few minutes about his day, and if he can't appreciate you and what you do for him, you are going to have to end it sooner or later. Wish you asked four months ago.
2007-03-08 07:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you married him with these terrible anger issues. Of course he needs to get help. He'd get help or he'd have to move out. He's the problem, so there's no way I'D move out. Obviously, you do NOT get along great. You're in denial. He could have caused a serious accident throwing something at another car like that. He's just as bad as a drug addict-he's addicted to his anger.
2007-03-08 07:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow? Knowing this why would u marry him? What about when u have children, I am hoping u dont have them yet, what about those nights when they cry and nothing u do will soothe him how will he react? Sometimes anger management works, but I am certain if you mention this he will turn it around and say that u are too sensitive, or u dont understand..blah...blah.. BUT its not u! Some people are just like that, if they dont realize it then it will not be fixed. I am like that, I will throw things, break things , yell and curse if things are not done my way which to me is the correct way. SO, from my point of view, if you do not have children please dont jump onto that boat just yet. Seek therapy together. Record him when he has an outburst and play it for him later. Or leave him, something needs to shock him into controlling himself.
2007-03-08 07:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mystic Bell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a quick temper also due to this site & just feeling cranky Is your husband on the computer a lot - that might make him mad after a while Hang in there & if he won't get help separate
2007-03-08 07:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there i got a good site 4 you its for anger problems and i hope it helps you and yer husband www.thedoorcounseling.com/anger_and_the_christian.htm God Bless.
2007-03-08 07:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife has said the same thing about me. i read in a journal that advises you to take a step back and think about what you are about to do or say before it happens. if their is any self doubt that your actions are wrong, step back and think before you react. good luck
2007-03-08 07:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by paul g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋