im 15.i am veryshy and quiet.i dont talk at all in class,only in classes where i have good friends. im especially shy to talk to members of the opposite sex(boys). call me a loser, i know i am one. well anyways, this really popular/funny/talkative kid is in 3 of my classes.in social studies he asked me if i wrote down what the homework was for math..and i did so i showed it to him.he couldnt figure it out on the website (it was a printout) and asked me to help him print it.he then said that he takes his own notes in class because the teacher sux at teaching.i laughed and agreed after that i didnt talk to him at all.i dont like him as a crush but i feel i need to make more friends so i wana talk to him since hes easy to get along with.but i have no idea how to start a convo.he probably thinks im weird since i dont talk much and i dont wana start a convo and him not have anything to say and it be really awkward.he has lots of friends and i dont which makes it more embarrasing for me.help
2007-03-08 07:26:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and to top it all off..i have a face full of zits and glasses and im a complete nerd who studies all the time. and also im not white..i dont think this matters but i would feel more comfortable talking to him if i was the same race as him. as you can see im not very confident at all..and all this stuff about him talking to me happened last friday. so its been a week and he hasnt said anything. i dont wanna say something and it be totally awkward or him think "why is she talking to me.." and also i cant just come in and talk to him when hes busy laughing with his friends..makes me look like a loser
2007-03-08 07:27:08 · update #1
Stop being so hard on yourself! You are not a loser! You seem like a very bright young lady. Being shy can be quite painful, maybe you could look up tips or find a good book to help you overcome that, but there is nothing wrong with being shy, it can also be a very sweet personality trait. As for the specific guy you want to talk to, maybe you could wait for the right moment, and just tell him a compliment, like, "I like your sense of humor" or something else about him you like. Or ask him if hes seen any good movies lately? You'll see, as you get older, you won't always feel so awkward. Good luck dear.
2007-03-08 08:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are walking down the hallway or if you just walked into class and he's already there, just say "hey" or "hi" and that's all it takes. for a while it'll be boring, but eventually you'll start more conversations. if you wanna say more than that though, ask him how his math is going and if he still nees help or if he figured everything out okay. Remember, you don't have to make it a long conversation, but he might start talking to you first. You never know! Good luck and God bless!
2007-03-08 07:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was me in high school for my freshman year! The biggest nerd ever! I do have a lot of friends, but I am shy when it comes to meeting new ones. Just try and talk casually, something that was on tv (ask if he's seen blah blah blah) or ask him about the homework, lesson, just something to get the ball rolling. I never talked in class either but it's pretty easy to make friends if you're friendly in return.
2007-03-08 07:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the pimples, be particular to bathe your face on a daily basis, and use a purifier alongside with neutrogena or somesuch. this will also help your self belief somewhat. As for the glasses, easily everyone wears glasses those days, they are hip. As for shyness, you've spoken to this boy before, so that you've a topic(the concern of sophistication), so construct on that. to break the ice ask him a question about the concern, then you definately can pass different smalltalk. do not agonize in case you experience humorous, it truly is what being shy is about. also save an eye fixed out for individuals attempting to be your buddy, many human beings are shy like you, and they are going to attempt to achieve out and make more suitable friends to boot, so save that in ideas.
2016-12-05 10:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think at this age its normal to feel like that you just started high school. I know its hard for you know but just say a simple hello when he passes you in the hallway. Who knows maybe hell make conversations. If he's a total jrk then don't mind him hes a loser who you dont need as a friend.
2007-03-08 07:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Erika G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't u look into after school activities or join a youth group. No, I don't think u should talk to him. You need to find people like you, they are out there. You also need to start liking yourself. Do your parents make u feel good about who you are?
Do you have any friends? If you do call them & make plans with them.
I hope i helped.
2007-03-08 07:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Randi R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww baby girl...its ok...the first thing you need to do is relax and just do it...say hello and whats up a little bit more to get your feet wet...then just start a little chit chat and ask him how his day is going today....maybe even another day ask him what he's into and let him know what your into...so the more you chit chat with him daily the more you guess build a friendship and a familiarity with eachother...so then when you see him you can treat him like hes one of the girls...him and any other person rather its male or female just relax...and if your uncomfortable start off smalll by just saying hello greeting yourself every now and then....
2007-03-08 07:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do a little research. you need to find out the kind of things that he likes and what yall have in commin. if you can talk easily about something that he likes then he will talk to you and it will be easier to talk to him
2007-03-08 07:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋