I am very spontaneous and I have been my whole life. When it comes to BFs I tend to brake up with them so easily based on how I feel at that moment and I started off that way with this guy I have been dating for two years but he has made me realize that you cant just "run" from every problem like I was before so we are "working out" things. I still get such an urge to just leave him tho... I know that I love him SO much, the only thing is he checks out every girl, or he will email girls that he used to date. I tell him how much it bothers me, it hurts, but I'm scared that if i leave him I will feel like I'm running from my problems. Some one help me figure out when enuf is enuf!? I do love him more then anyone I have before, yet he makes me feel like crap when he checks out other girls. I'm being to jealous?
2007-03-08 07:23:18 · 2 answers · asked by K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...I don't know all the information about you and your lover specifically darling...but running away from any lover all of the time, falls under the category of an "anxiety problem" of sorts sweetie. Insecurity issues run boundless here as well. Left unchecked it's gonna be the broken record that ruins every loving relationship you'll ever have honey! Working things out together with your lover is the adult way to handle problems these days certainly...unless of course the man is abusive or a mentally disturbed individual. Jealous behavior is a bad emotionally draining addictive behavior as well hun. Have the facts...and start trying to feel more secure within yourself first darling. You are responsible for all of your own thoughts, wants, needs and desires in life sweety...nobody else will be...not even your lover. Unless this guy is a total caddy jerk...I'd look at my own self worth first,...worry about everyone else's here later. It's good to be you honey! Don't ever forget it either!
2007-03-08 07:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he needs to respect how you feel but at the same time he should be allowed to talk to whoever he wants. I think as long as he is open with you about who he is talking to then you don't need to be jealous. However, if he is making you feel bad and you don't see the relationship going anywhere you should think about what's best for you. If you think what's best for you is to leave then don't let fear stop you, but I wouldn't make a decision like that on impulse. Talk to some friends and see what they think too.
2007-03-08 15:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by ambrosius15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋