To anybody this is urgent: I need HELP or i will commit SUICIDE in 9 hrs!!!?

Question

For your information i am 17, my dad is 46.
On Wednesday my dad told me to clean up my mess in my bathroom. He said do not take all night. I am cleaning-up, until he says that I am taking 10 times slow. I said that I am half way to being done you idiot. Then he told me to do not give him another hard time. He thinks that I can clean my mess up in 20 minutes or less. I am trying to explain to him in his face that I can get it all finished in 30 – 40 minutes. Whenever I try to say anything to him weather if its something good or bad, then he just gets paranoid, I do not know what else to do about it. I just cannot take it anymore.
Whenever my dad rushes me at anything I feel so much of stress on myself. When I feel stress on myself then I do not get along with anyone weather if it’s at home, school, etc.
I feel like I just need to get his attention by doing the following
suicide, runaway, etc.
What can I do about my dad’s problem?
And
How can I deal with it?
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Answer 1

You can either talk to him yourself, or bring in another family member to talk to him. He's got issues himself. You need to pull yourself together, and realize that it's your father. You won't be living with him forever, and you can make it on your own. If you don't feel safe, try moving in with a friend. Whatever you do, just be careful. Just be calm, and don't get too stressed, because that will make things worse. Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all, dont hurt yourself or runaway, please!
Talk to a counselor at school, talk to a minister, talk to anyone available to you. Call a hotline, anything! Just find someone you can vent your frustrations to an you'll feel some better, and those people may eventually be able to talk to your dad as well.
As for doing things your dad says but not fast enough, try keeping it all clean anyway. Your bath and your room are your responsibility. Do a little spot cleaning everyday and then when he starts barking orders to clean it, it'll take only a few minutes.
Another thing you should do, if you havent already and if you can, is get a small part time job. Make your own money so you can do things for yourself. You'll feel good and your dad will be impressed.
help around the house, do well in school, try your best, and find someone dependable to talk to. Your dad doesnt mean to be hard on you, he just wants the best from you.
Give yourself some time, if hes still giving you trouble when you turn 18, save your money now and move on out. Or join the military. Your life will change drastically in good ways when you are able to be on your on. Dont take it now right before the good starts to happen.
If nothing else, check into jobcorp or americorps and find something good for yourself by helping others.
Good luck, and you'll be ok! =)

Answer 3

Okay, REALITY CHECK!! Get over it and grow up. I know it sounds harsh but you aren't going to make things better by calling your dad an idiot, running away or killing yourself! All youre gonna prove is that you, excuse the term, didnt have the balls to face and do something about your problems. Your only 17 and if this is how youre trying to solve your problems, how are you going to deal in the real world???? If youre not getting along with your dad, seek some counseling. Do some research, there are a lot of organizations that can offer help or maybe find someone who is not biased and mediate a discussion between you and your father. Just be mature about the decisions you make!

Answer 4

In the first place do NOT commit suicide. You said you were 17? In another year you can leave the house and not have to put up with you dad's orders except when you come to visit. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem as my shrink told me many years ago when I was contemplating suicide. I am SO glad I didn't do it. I have had a decent life and a lot of good times, all of which I would have missed if I had killed myself.
If you have some other adult that you can turn to PLEASE ask if you could talk to them about this. You would be amazed by how much just getting this off your chest to another human being will help relieve your frustration. A pastor or priest would be perfect and free! Also the school counselor might be helpful. Some government agencies provide free counseling to those who cannot afford it on their own. Also, see if there is a suicide hot line in your area. Talking on the phone to someone who can give you informed advice is better then talking to no one at all.
Don't even keep thinking of suicide as a possibility. This is really no solution at all!

Answer 5

Others have said that it is just cleaning and do not stress so much. But I am going to say, it goes much deeper than this. Is your dad abusive physically with you. Are you afraid of him? If you really are suicidal you need to call a suicide hotline soon. It does seem to be minor, but sometimes there is more to the story then we know- please do not runaway are try anything like suicide. Have you talked to your mom or a close friend about this. Tell someone, please- you are precious and God loves you. I do not know if you if know that or not. Did you call him an idiot to his face? If my 18 yr old son called me or his dad that, I would be angry too. I just want to know if there is anything else bothering you.

Answer 6

One, be assured that your dad does love you and you are not doing anyone favors by comtemplating any of these actions. Second, what you are going through is not new or uncommon. The most you can do is walk away when your dad acts like this. Ignore him. Neither of you need to stress out. If you are comtemplating suicide, you need help NOW. Look for a chat room or a hotline that can let you vent and get this stuff off your chest. Good luck.

Answer 7

Oh Please................ drama, drama, drama........... why are you causing so much drama over cleaning your room. My son is 15. I do not let him allow his room to get that messy. If i see a mess I tell him to get it clean. I tell him I will be back in 15 minutes. Its not like you are a child. You will soon be out on your own. You shouldnt be making messes like that.

And to say your going to kill yourself because your dad rushed you..... you need to get into theropy !!!! What are you going to do when your in the real world and you get behind on your bills and have a bad day at work if you cant handle cleaning up a room. You 17 stop acting like a 4 year old that isnt getting its way .

At your age you should just be doing it.... without being asked , and it doesnt take that long to clean up a bedroom. Start helping your dad out after all he pays the bills that takes care of you.

Answer 8

I think you're a whiny little selfish child. Why is that mess there in the first place? Because you're too lazy to pick things up when you're done. You sound like a defiant little child who has no respect. This does not sound like a problem of your father's but laziness and a lack of respect for the one who keeps you alive.

What are you going to do when you have to move out? You can't function in a family how will you in society? Nobody is foolish enough to end it all over a dirty bathroom, there is more to it and you don't want to tell us what YOU are doing. Hell if you were my child and called me an idiot to my face... I would've slapped the hell out of you faster that you could blink an eye. You dad is trying to teach you how to take care of yourself because you DON'T KNOW HOW.

All the other children speaking up for you, and it is your laziness that is going to prevent you from ever becoming a man. You want pity and people to say it isn't that bad. You don't deserve pity and you deserve what you are getting. You are a child who has no respect for yourself or your father. You will blame him for everything until the day you die because you don't know how to take responsibility for you own idiocy. Don't cry to us, it makes you look like a fool.

Answer 9

To be clear he didn't try to commit suicide he was thinking about it. That's two separate things. When I lost my mother to cancer back in 2004 I was very depressed too. I couldn't work full time, I began to have financial troubles to the point that I depleted much of my savings. I never contemplated suicide because that's cowardly. You have to move on and get yourself better anway you can. I did and received my professional accounting designation a year later. I'm glad Ginuwine has overcome as well. He has kids who need him.

Answer 10

First of all...do NOT commit suicide. That is never the answer to anything. There isn't really anything you can do about how your dad behaves or acts. The only person you can control is yourself. My mom always told me "kill 'em with kindness"...have you ever tried that? As much as he annoys or irritates you, just try to be the better person....meaning, no name calling, being respectful or polite...I know it might seem hard, but if you retaliate, then he is just going to get more upset. You only have one more year (if even) and you will be 18 and can move out and live your life. You might want to look to see if there are any counselors that can help you...maybe at your school?

I don't know...I hope that helps a little...

Answer 11

first of all, you are the problem not your dad..because someone asks you to clean your mess up is not a reason to threaten suicide, it does not take 40 minutes to clean a bathroom, If you are already 17 then you have less than a year until you can move out and be an adult..and guess what ? then you have a whole house to clean on your own! Get over it and quit threatening to run away or suicide..what do you want him to do just let you get away with whatever you want? don't be so ungrateful.