Need help ASAP. Thanks.
2007-03-08 07:18:13 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As long as both parents are fit I am a firm believer in joint custody!!
2007-03-08 07:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough Q without knowing the circumstances.
If you live within the same town you should ask for Fully joint/equal joint custody. That means exactly what it sounds like. Sleeping/living in both homes for an equal amount of time.
Full custody if the other parent is "unfit" in some way or lives very far away. Most states will always lean towards giving the mother custoday but that is slowly changing.
If the children are very young, try and avoid a battle. It will take its toll on thier young souls. Either way be prepared to lay out some cash. I went through it 15 yrs ago and actually won custody from my ex. I waited until my kids were 13 & 15.
Good luck
2007-03-08 15:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by njxrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would ask for sole custody with standard visitation allowed to the father. In my divorce, I asked for liberal and reasonable visitation simply because I don't beleive that good fathers should be limited to every other weekend as a father. When they are "dads" I think they should be able to see their children more often than an every other weekend schedule. That way if they want to pick them up after school, take them out, etc. they know they have that option and can remain active in their lives...with your permission of course. I would create some sort of fair arrangements for holidays, (ie. every other year or split the holiday season to pre christmas time one year, post christmas the next, etc.). I also asked for all medical and dental to be provided by the father as well as insurance. Child support and school expense through age 21. The arrangements that you make would depend alot on how well you 2 get along. If it's bitter, you'll need to be as specific as possible or you'll be facing problems all the time and the kids will ultimately be caught in the middle.
Hope this helps. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 15:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you get to spend a good enough amount of time with your children. Not just pay for things and not get the benefit in helping to raise them and spend quality time with them. Make sure to stay a part of their lives! If you don't want full, go for joint custody depending on how far you live from each other decide when it will be, like weekends or half of every week. Splitting holidays so you both get the kids on some each year.
2007-03-08 15:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask for everything that you want. If you both get along well then its better to leave things a bit ambiguous, but if things are bitter then you're going to want to be as precise as possible. Think about hand off times/places, vacations, holidays, birthdays, and anything else that would be impacted. I think it can be as simple or as complicated as you make it.
Here's how my parents custody agreement went with me and my siblings (my parents lived in the same town about 10 minutes apart): We spent one month at each parents house. My mom was the one who always picked up and dropped off on the first of each month. Any holidays that fell within the month were spent with the parent who had custody that month (but we usually did end up seeing the other parent at some point during the day). To make it so months were switched from year to year we would spend two months in a row with one parent each year (August and September).
2007-03-08 15:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Full custody. But really that depends on your whole situation. If you and your ex are on good terms you should be able to work things out some way or another and have equal time with the child/ren. You must always put the child/ren first and consider where they are going to school, if you live in different states, towns, cities, then moving the child/ren around too much will get them confused and it will give them a hard time. You are already making it difficult for them to begin with so don't make it any harder on them.
2007-03-08 15:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by caz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support and to cut all payments in half for everything (ie. daycare, recreation, lessons, that type of thing) my husband didnt do that the first time around, we got screwed had to go back to court.
JOINT custody, or you will never see the kid(s)...full custody to your ex will mean that he(she) decides when and IF u ever see the kid(s)
2007-03-08 15:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
custody of your children? I would ask for weekends. some nights, every other holiday, and the right to speak on the phone anytime.
2007-03-08 15:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure all details concerning where the child spends each SPECIFIC holiday
and school holidays
and that the other person will also make it possible for the child to do any sports they are in or practices or competitions
costs of medical
costs of schooling and of course child support
Good luck
2007-03-08 15:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by caretaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there and done that need more info on the subject of what your looking for, main thing right now is who left who with the kid if its a custody battle
2007-03-08 15:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋