My husband and our family was invited to a mans wedding from his work.This would be the second wedding we have attended of his in the last 7 years and he has been married 4 or 5 times and the woman at least 2 times.In the invitation they asked for money only as far as gifts go.Do you think this is ok or just plum rude??I feel it is totaly rude.Also how do I know in a few years I wont be invited to another wedding of his?
2007-03-08 06:55:20 · 34 answers · asked by anntanner 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is tacky and rude to ask your guests for anything besides their time in the attendance of your wedding. Gifts are not required to attend weddings.
When people ask for money in the invitations I don't give them anything (okay, I'll give a card) and when they include a little card to tell me where they registered I never buy them anything they asked for. It is my own personal rebellion and teaching technique.
2007-03-08 07:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS A BIG NO-NO! VERY RUDE! You should never ever have gift information included with your actual invitation. It makes it seem as though you are only inviting your guests with the purpose of receiving gifts. Your cards/information about gift registry should be included with the bridal shower invitation ONLY, and even then there should be no mention of whether or not the couple prefers money. If there is no shower (and even if there is), then it is up to the parents of the couple (or other friends/relatives) to inform guests that the couple prefers a monetary gift, and that's ONLY if guests ask. I think that if you have attended his wedding before, then a small gift is appropriate. I would say something around $50 - $75, tops. And that's not even necessary. Giving gifts to the newlyweds is traditional, but not mandatory.
If he gets married again, consider your presence to be his present. :-)
2007-03-08 12:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine got married in November and wanted to do the same thing! She did not register because she only wanted people to give her money (which got her pretty much nothing or whatever people chose). It's just not right...and it doesn't sound like proper wedding ettiquette. If they have been married that many times and were asking for money this time, I would think that it's all a scam to make some money! I've heard of people mentioning money trees in invitations, but not just outright asking only for money. If they are that selfish, they don't deserve anything at all. Check out the link below...
2007-03-08 07:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by deejay30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude!!! Don't do it. If you have already attended a wedding for this person, you can go to the wedding and not buy a gift at all with a clear conscious. I see this question all the time in Ann Landers and Miss Manners and they both always say, you cannot ask for money and way shape or form! I hope this helps you.
2007-03-08 07:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may seem rude but some people look @ it as whatever money you were going to spend on my gift I rather use it for bills or a honeymoon! They might have everything they already need. Who knows unless you ask!! I went to a wedding 2 years ago & the same thing was requested I think personally that was easier than buying a gift off of a registry for $100 versus giving $40. I was glad they cancelled the registry! I hope there is no set amount!! i hope this helps you .
Good Luck!!!
2007-03-08 07:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetness 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I see an invitation that requests anything other than the guest honored presence, I assume the invitor was either raised by a pack of wolves or born in a barn. I think if this person has another wedding, the only thing you should give is your congratulations.
2007-03-08 15:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rude. You shouldn't even been asked to give any gift after the second wedding. Now if its the wife first one sometimes a little something is okay, but you should never ask for money. It was rude for them to ask.
2007-03-08 07:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by brezzy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is plan rude.
there should be no 'ask' for money or gifts at all in your wedding invitation, if people want to know what you would like they can contact the parents, you, or have in your invite a link to your wedding website (where it mentions registry and on it - then hint you would prefer cash)
2007-03-08 07:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Nichole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
totally rude, I mean at this point I would say the gift privilage is off, not to mention that wedding invitations are to invite people to the wedding and celebrate the union, not to solicit gifts, because you don't have to give them anything. They have no right to dictate what you do with your hard earned money, if you wanna buy a toaster thats your right....in fact I would prolly go get the ugliest toaster I could find and give it to them for having the nerve to do that!
2007-03-08 06:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by ASH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! Are you serious?? The nerve they have to ASK for anything!!!! You are even suppose to put where you are registered. And if this is not his first marriage I can't even believe they are asking for anything. That would make me want to give them a card and say "for your gift refer to the gift given 03/03/03 (or whatever the date was of his last wedding). I know that's not the right thing to do but it is very tempting!!!!
2007-03-08 07:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋