How do I start?

Question

My ex. was my first girlfriend ever started when I was 16 and now i'm almost 21. I've only known her and didnt really date or even want to date anybody else. She cheated on me then broke up with me thinking this other guy was better for her, with out even talking which hurt alot. Because I moved with her to go to school I didnt really make many friends because I had her and didnt really have anybody I rather be around or anything. So now i'm stuck in a town that I really dont know anybody but the people from work. Since i'm still 2 months till 21 I cant get in to most bars, and I already have a hard time talking to women, I dont know how to approach them at school. Does anybody have any advice on how to find somebody? Its hard coming home to a house you know nobody will be there or want to be there. I just need somebody to go to when I have trouble, or just want to relax with.

Answer 1

Go to Bible study & Church. Lots of nice single girls there and the classes are really interesting and fun.
Everyone is friendly and you are welcome.Our young people love it.
Your chances in a bar arn't your best choice.~~~~~~~Jill

Answer 2

There is nothing I or anyone else can say to make you feel better. It happened to me too. I gave up the opportunity to go to any school I wanted to on scholarship, just to follow my girlfriend. When we got there she met all these new interesting people and I found myself alone at a cut-rate school with all that potential wasted. After about 3 months of being totally depressed, I just said that's it, I'm not going to beat myself up over this anymore. It was a great feeling and those around me noticed the change in attitude. I actually attracted a few girls with my upbeat attitude and life got better. It just takes time. I'm sorry, but it's true. One thing though...the girl you want is not going to be in a bar. You'll meet her where you least expect it.

Start going to public attractions like outdoor events, go to church and join a group. Start taking walks at parks and just relax. Eventually you'll meet someone special again.

Answer 3

That's a really crappy situation. First off, don't look in a bar for a relationship. As far as talking to women just remember you've got nothing to lose by doing so. You will need to push yourself out of your comfort zone at first.

Just remember that if you don't try you'll never succeed.

And stay away from anyone that reminds you of your old gf, sounds like she wasn't that kind of a person to just drop you like that. Pretty uncaring. She was most likely just sticking with you until someone that she felt was better came along. It sucks but she may have just been using you to fill an emotional and sexual void in herself. I doubt it was intentional in any case.