How should you deal with a disapproving mother-in-law?

Answer 1

Give her a toe up the a-rse and send her packing. Tell her to sling her hook.

Answer 2

difficult one this, because your spouse is caught in the middle with divided loyalties. One good tip is to ask advice, often: ask her opinion on places to buy things, how you should handle a situation, etc. - you don't have to take the advice but you may be surprised, she may warm to you a little. People want to be needed and your marriage may have made her feel a little pushed-out and neglected - you really don't need the problems of rowing and arguments and having your spouse feeling rotten about it all. Try to get your mother in law on your side by making her feel needed, then she won't object so much on the occasions when you are doing your own thing.
It took me a long time to realise that asking people for advice (even if you don't take it) is NOT a weakness, it often brings out a better side in people. Heck, it's worth a try, what do you have to lose?
Good luck.

Answer 3

there's no easy way to deal with the irrational behavior of an "overprotective" mother. The deal is for better or worse. The first thing you need to do is to get your spouse on your side. You developed this relationship together it's yours jointly to deal with. Don't let your spouse dismiss the problem you percieve make it abundantly clear that your M-inlaw is a concern and the you both need to deal with it in a serious fashion. Once you have a clear method of handling the situation you need to take dear old ma to a nice restaurant and display your solidarity and resolve that no matter what she says/does/thinks. You're relationship with each other is very important and that IT will continue with or without her. If your spouse is to cowardly to stand up with you... then maybe they need to do some maturing... If this is the scenario then... compromise is the order of the day... avoid the battle axe but make it abundantly clear to your spouse WHY, maybe in time they will find the courage to stand up with you

Answer 4

Tread carefully as this is your husbands mum but then again if your mother-in-law is finding faults with everything you do then really you must confront her.Maybe tell your husband that she disapproves and your not sure what you have done to deserve this.Maybe your husband could have a chat with his mum but if it does not help then have a quiet talk with your mother-in-law yourself.Inform her that you would really like to get on if not for your own sakes but for your husbands..........good luck.

Answer 5

It's tricky. I have spoken to mine,but I haven't seen her for 2 years.
I am always polite to her on the phone but I avoid ever having to go to her house. Its quite easy as she lives several hundred miles away.
I always make an excuse and say there is no room for us all to stay.

It's a horrible situation but it's all of her own doing!!

Answer 6

my mother in law is a pain in the Harris i find if i ignore her catty remarks, stick to what i was saying, keep making my point of view works, but more often a tap on the head with a frying pan works wonders

Answer 7

Be as polite as you can, make sure your partner is the one to tell her where to get off when she's out of order, but never in front of you otherwise is will make her feel bad. If she realises you have your other half's full support, and yet you continue to treat her with respect and dignity, you'll eventually win her round.

Answer 8

try and show the mother how much u care for ur wife or gf or watever and try to make sure u make ur wife feel special and make it almost noticable k?

hope it helps man good luck im only a teen! lol


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Answer 9

it depends on what shes disapproving of, normally my advice for in laws is to speak to your spouse and ask him to handle it.

Answer 10

Just grin and bear it. Try getting your spouse to speak with their mother. Letting her know that she should mind her own business.

Answer 11

Remember you married your husband not his mother. Just don't let it get to you so much. Just be nice and polite to her.

My grandmother was the same to my mother when she married my dad. She just was polite and nice and never let it get to her. Once my mother had me, my grandmother realised that my mother was sticking around so she better play nice.

Good luck