How can a naturally boring, quiet, shy man like me attract a woman? I'm in my 30s and never married.?

Question

I'm very nice and polite and decent looking. But my dates are not attracted to me for some reason.

Answer 1

no worries-maybe your dates are all wrong for you-good luck you will find someone when you least expect it

Answer 2

First know you are good man. Boring? Quiet? Shy? Others would say you are stable, considerate, and sincere. Also, you may want to really think about the type of woman you would like to date. Do you prefer other quiet and shy women? If so it will take just a moment of cleverness and boldness on your part to make a connection. After that first connection, your natural similarities can continue the relationship.

And finally, as men, we sometimes think that a woman should fit the "ideal" picture of our fantasies. Those types of relationships seldom perpetuate and even if you happen to find a woman who fits that description you still have to contend with the real woman there. So if you think you are attracted to the personality, don't worry as much about the physical. Once the relationship is underway, she will truely strive to be better for you and you will do the same for her.

Answer 3

I think if you go to premarital counseling and iron out all the crap it took the rest of us ten years and a divorce to do prior to entering into a life-time contract, you could have the marriage of the century. If you find the one that you can't wake up without, then keep her and communicate and negotiate and remember to be friends. When you find a woman who feels like you feel and wants to have fun too, then think about marrying her. If she has diffent ideas, then don't. Life is only boring if you let it be. I think if you make your life happen instead of letting it happen to you, you can shape it the way you want it. You ask a good question--I look forward to hearing what the guys say. Staying single has disadvantages and getting married has disadvantages. Like I said, if you do the work before hand and can communicate, negotiate, and think of someone besides yourself in your relationship, a marriage can be a beautiful thing. Being single can get old and lonely and lame. I am afraid there is no good answer to your question. It all really depends on you.

Answer 4

Have you looked into online matchmaking services, where you can look for suitable matches based on personalities and interests? I can't think of the names of any right now... A good example is Yahoo Personals...

However, I would also advise you to make sure everything is legitimate. It is good to do your own research about a person you think you would like to get to know better.

Answer 5

u need to talk to them, do u have any friends who are girls? Ask them what they like. Some ways to flirt are also try to be confident-I know easier said then done, but you have to try-be funny because I know that I'm attracted to funny guys, listen to what a girl is saying when they talk and respond because they want you to talk too, I know I like that. Flirt-the way you talk, gaze into her eyes-if only for a moment, and get a hobby so you have stuff to talk about when you have to talk about yourself!!! hope tht helps! Best of luck 2 ya!!!!

Answer 6

you can't be that boring.i'm sure there is someone out there that will think u're the most interesting man she's ever known.you just have not met her yet

Answer 7

well wat i think is, just try to open up a little bit more dont show to much over confidence although its quiete unliekely
but some peeps could tel u to do that, hmm i know im probably a bit to young to help im 13 and quiete experienced tho lol, but not that kind of way! hmmm try too express to them how u feel in a faint, way and flirtin can help sometimes but dont over do it that can be risky if u need ne more info ask me again or u can add me ne way hope that helps m8

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Answer 8

i would say you need to try to come out of your shell a little bit. i know it's hard but it works. i've had that same problem with guys and after i started showing my outgoing, fun-loving side, guys started to notice me more.

Answer 9

the naturally boring part might be your problem. get some hobbies, read books, stay on current events, watch movies, learn about history or art. something to talk about so you keep their interest. nobody likes to talk to someone who has nothing to say.