We promised 2 talk 2 eachother no matter what happens!!He is going out with some other chic, but i still like him.I get really mad!!!!!
2007-03-08 06:41:08 · 30 answers · asked by Mrs.Attitude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, you have to let him go. eventhough you both promised to still be friends, he's now have someone else that have a higher priority. it's time to go on and treat him like a distance friend.
2007-03-08 06:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling.I went out with a wonderful guy for about a year,he was also my bestfriend from our freshman year in high school.He came to my house one day after work and after hanging out through dinner and a movie he told me that he didn't think we should be together anymore.I was floored.I couldn't believe what I was hearing.All I could say was "okay if that's what you think is best".We said that we would stay friends and we did till he found a new girlfriend.
See the thing is,no matter how close of friends you are with a guy before you date him,it's still gonna hurt.Slowly we stoped talking and then he just didn't come over anymore.I thought the samething "he's ignoring me".When really I was so hurt and angry from him breaking up with me that I just wasn't the same person he liked to hang out with anymore.Eventually it stopped hurting to be around him or to even think of him.
I wish now that I hadn't pushed him away because I was feeling hurt.He went into the Air Force a while later and married the girl he was seeing.I'm sorry I lost that friendsship.
I'm not saying you don't have the right to feel hurt or angry but I am saying that if you hold onto those feelings you might loose his friendship all together.And that hurts more than a mere break up.
Good luck,I hope you can still find it in your heart to help him through his relationships (even if it means he's not with you).Let him know you support him.He'll always love you as a friend and be thankful that you're there for him.
2007-03-08 14:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what did not include him getting a new girlfriend. As a result, you are at best on a back burner that has turned cold as far as you ex is concerned. It will be the same when you get a new boyfriend. I think you are mad because you really like him. If he wanted to get back with you, you would do it at the drop of a hat.
2007-03-08 14:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When long relationships end, sometimes it's hard to let go. I think, as women, we always have this feeling that the man is going to suddenly come to his senses and realize he can't live without us.
That almost never happens.
For your sake, break off communication with him. (The only way you'll really be able to move on.) I know it's hard, and it won't feel right at first, but eventually you'll get over it and will find someone else who makes you more happy.
If it's not meant to be, it's just not meant to be. Besides, what kind of relationship could you have if he wasn't really into you?
Take some time to love yourself, and everything else will fall into place.
2007-03-08 14:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by isisrocca82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The keyword here is "ex". You guys can make promises to talk and this and that, but the fact of the matter is you are not together anymore and he's probably moved on to other things, and since you know he's dating again, technically speaking you don't have a right to be upset. Sorry.
2007-03-08 14:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you haven't been broke up for very long, you need to walk away and let the awkward ness settle. If he has moved on, think of how weird it is for him. You still like him and pushing to still have a friend relationship with him, it may just be too much for right now. My boyfriend tried that with the last girl he dated before me. He brokeup with her to be with me, well to him they were not a relationship, but to her they were. Anyways, I have to say that it was very hard on me, she kept coming over, and calling, oh, and would call at dinner time and ask us to watch her little boy so she could go out. She knew my boyfriend wanted to still be part of her kid's life and she could take advantage of that. Now whenever her and her present boyfriend have trouble she wants to come cry on my boyfriend shoulder or she wants him(just him) to meet her out. Put yourself in my place. He and I have been together two years and she is still clinging to him like she has a chance whenever she decides she wants it. OH, and he will go see her, and we will watch her son, it is really hard for me. My last man cheated on me, and this ex of his is not modest, in fact she throws herself at my boyfriend every chance she gets, and later will claim she was drunk. Sorry, did mean to turn this into my problem. I guess what i am trying to say is try to look at this from all sides. Maybe try being friends with him and her. You will have to put your feelings aside for now if you want to still be friends with him, or you will lose any relationship you might want with him. By demanding he talk to you "no matter what" you are pushing yourself into his new relationship. Give it some time, if you think you already have, then try a more casual approach. Break ups are hard when they are not mutual. Know that you may not be able to be friends. He might decide he is not comfortable with it. Or his new girl may have a problem with it, which won't help her, but either way, he will probably give into her before you. sorry.
2007-03-08 14:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by casady96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you do anything he is your EX boyfriend. By being your EX boyfriend he is free to go out with anyone he chooses and you have no right to get mad. I suggest you stay out of relationships until you can grow up and be mature enough to understand that when a guy becomes an EX they are no longer "your property" they are free to see whomever they choose, so you need to move on.
2007-03-08 14:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing I can tell you is that you are always gonna like him because he has of piece of your good loving but try to move on later on he'll realize that he missed out on a good thing but the good thing for you is that your man just might be standing on the other side of the door.
2007-03-08 14:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by carmel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your ex- boyfriend is not giving you his time. His probably giving it to someone else. If he is truly in love with you he would want to spend time with you. You would be his world and his everything. The best thing that you can do for yourself is let him happy in his life. Don't keep worrying about him, because you won't be happy if you do that.
2007-03-08 14:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by DARk&lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you like him a little too much and he knows this...that's why he is keeping his distance. Also could be out of respect for the new girl...he has moved on, you need to do the same.
2007-03-08 14:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋