My husband and I both work. But I am kinda starting to find it pointless for me to work. My husband works a full-time job but just recently also wanted to get a part-time. I prefer staying home with the baby's but he hasnt said anything to me about being a stay at home mom. He doesnt really use my paycheck and never did when he only worked one job. I just use it for my own personal use.
Since he hasnt brought it up, should I? If so, how?
2007-03-08 06:29:19 · 24 answers · asked by Jacinda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
a few asked, why he has a part-time job? he just recently bought land in mexico and wants to fix it up so that we have a getaway home for the summer. I offered to help him with my paycheck but he refuses. he feels it is a man's duty. besides, when I use my paycheck i do buy me stuff but I also put in for the kids, my hubby or on just whatever. Not just on ME.
2007-03-08 06:42:40 · update #1
The best thing will to be stay at home and strenghten your home relationships. Replenish your relationship with your husband by being available for him when he is back home. You have been busy with your work and must have missed a lot of home stuff. Stay with your baby and be a good mother and a good wife, Best of luck...
2007-03-08 06:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by faizanramball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that being a stay at home is benificial to your children. It's the only way that you can be sure your kids are being lovingly cared for. But at the same time if thats what you want to do, make sure you still find "you" time when you can get away from home with a few friends and take a breather. Day care is great if you need it, but no one can be as good as mom. Talk to your husband about it, I'm sure he will agree anyway, seeing how it will save you both day care expenses and allow him to pay for everything like he assists upon. Good luck to you and your family.
2007-03-08 14:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by mommy to 2 year old triplets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I got the answer for you................ If I was you I would work only few days a week, This way you spend some time away from your kids and you are making money. But if you enjoy your kids then I would talk to your hubby and if he don't want anything to do with your money then he shouldn't care- This way you can tell him it won't be point less because you will eliminate the child care expenses
2007-03-08 14:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rose K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put your children in daycare to work for money that isn't even necessary?! Get your priorities straight huney, children are worth a lot more than pocket money for personal use. Atleast if you were going to say you are putting every penny of it away for children's future and education that's different but for personal use come on! That's not fair to the children, they need their mom during the day, if any Mom has the ability to stay home with their kids they should!
2007-03-08 14:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time off work (no pay) and believe that you are not going back. Spend 24/7 with the baby. You will save the sitter fee but not your antsyness to be doing what you do at work!
I always wanted to work but people in my life believed that I really shouldnt and made the harsh decision for me not to work.
2007-03-08 14:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is totally up to you. Since you use your paycheck for your own personal use why not start investing it, start up your own 401k or money market accounts. You can open up long or short term CD accounts and save up for a nice vacation, go on a cruise or take the baby (when he/she is old enough) to Disney and get the entire package...you'll be able to afford it.
2007-03-08 14:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that our babies are small for such a short amount of time, you should stay home and really enjoy them as much as possible, work later when you feel a drive to do so and when the children no longer need you because that will happen faster than you think!
2007-03-08 14:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by LUB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at the cost of child care against what you bring home.. if the child care is more then you have a solid argument for staying home. Tho I wonder why he feels that he needs a second job...
You two really need to sit down and discuss your fiances.
2007-03-08 14:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should it up, soon, esp if he wants to get a part time job also,
just bring it up talking over dinner, make a couple frozen crappy dinners, and tell him how much better it would be if you just stayed home with the baby,, you could save money on sitter and have a great meal ready when he got home,
2007-03-08 14:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you start a part time job? a few hours a week just so you have that extra bit of money...and with you having a job is always a good thing...with a part time job you can have time for your baby, for your husband and for yourself...i would tell your husband about it straight away
2007-03-08 14:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋