She gave me an I-pod, 2 nice lacoste shirts, cologne and some very nice candles. She wants all the stuff back because we are no longer dating and she feels giving me gifts was a waste of her time and money.
2007-03-08 06:29:12 · 33 answers · asked by Jeff R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you are right! Gifts are gifts, you have no obligation to return them!
2007-03-08 06:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's silly when people break up and then try to collect all the things they've ever given you. I think it's done more out of pain and spitefulness because really, what is she going to do with two used shirts and used cologne? She can't give them to another guy. Now of course she could use the Ipod and candles, but like I said, she's just being spiteful. If she's giving you a ton of grief about it, just give them back to her and move on with your life. They have little monetary value and probably no sentimental value either (not like a locket or oil painting would). It's just silly, it's like your saying to her - I gave you 25 orgasms in this relationship, I want them back...come on. Now if it were a big thing like a car or leather coat, then I could see it "kind of" but to me, a gift is just that...a gift. If she had intended for it to be a loan, that's different, but I don't think that's the case. Judgment is for the defendant (that's you), case dismissed.
2007-03-08 06:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the moral issue is how long ago did she give you these items (especially the Ipod)? and who broke up with who and why? Did you cheat on her and broke up with you and wanted her stuff back? Give it to her! Don't keep proving to the world you are a selfish jerk. Okay now: You did nothing wrong and she still broke up with you? She is a psycho. Give her back the stuff before she stalks you!
No really just give her back the stuff and look for a better girlfriend to replace the items!
2007-03-08 06:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by TracyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, then that's how she feels, there's no changing that. However, they were gifts. Was there a contract you signed? If not (which I would assume is the case), then you have no obligation whatsoever to give them back - They're your property now. I suggest you tell her this, and just try to put up with whatever she has to say. If she tries to take them back forcefully (or steal them), contact your local law enforcement, since it happens to be a crime to steal =)
2007-03-08 06:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say no. Those were gifts and at the time "no strings attached". If she gets nasty or anything like that, go ahead and give things back. I don't see her taking you to court since it would cost her more in the end then the gifts originally were worth.
2007-03-08 06:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. They were gifts, not loans, not shared property (maybe the candles). If she thought it was a waste she should've thought 2x b4 giveing them to you.
Of course if you want to get rid of her for good, give the stuff back but I would keep it all and say tough nookies.
2007-03-08 06:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by rangerbaldwin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is wrong to want those presents back. She GAVE them to you as presents, not as "loaners". Tell her to grow up, and quit playing games. You shouldnt have to give her any of that stuff back!!! & So what if she says you were a waste of her time & money!! She's the one that spent all the time and money on you! So haha, oh well!
2007-03-08 06:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by girlofyourdreams_6905 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think gifts are gifts, but if you really want to annoy her give the stuff back. She's using "stuff" to keep in touch with you, and to keep arguing with you. Once you give her the stuff back, she'll have nothing to talk with you about. If you enjoy the head game drama, keep the stuff. If you want to be rid of her, give it back and move on.
2007-03-08 06:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if it was a waste of her time and money she wouldn't have brought the gifts for you in the first place. But if she brought them for you technically they are yours. But if you just want her off your back so you wouldn't have to hear her nag about them I would just give them back.
2007-03-08 06:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hold onto things that will just remind you of her.. you keep the things and she will just drag all this on as a way to hold on to you.. she can't let go, therefore she is trying to find anyway of communicating with you or being in touch, even if it is just to hurt you.
You don't have to give them back, being they were gifts.. but I wouldn't want them-- especially if you were the one that broke up with her. If she dumped you... are you just keeping them to hold on to her?
2007-03-08 06:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋