My family is not close at all, well with the exception of me, my mom, step dad and sister and grandmother. The rest of my family acts as if we're not even related to one another. It's been like this since i was little and hasn't changed....how can a family not have love for one another. I've tried get everyone together for a family reunion (we've only had 1 and that was when i was 13...i'm 31 now) and nobody wants to participate. I have already come to grips with the fact that my biological father doesn't and has never wanted me but geesh you would thing at least cousins would interact. We all go to church (not the same church) and they can spend time and have fun with other people but won't interact with blood relatives.....
i'm not looking for a answer i guess i just wanted to vent
2007-03-08 06:27:18 · 15 answers · asked by Shai L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey if it makes you feel any better my family is the same way, but I just gave up trying to make them happy and started worrying about my problems instead of theirs. I just figured if they all want to be 2 faced to everybody including myself then I don't need them. I'm only 21 but it seems I'm the only one mature in my family because everyone else in my family talk behind each others back and I have a family to raise I don't want bad influences on my kids.As long as I raise my family to love one another that's my only goal.
2007-03-08 06:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Rose K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean i go thought the same thing, however it's starting to change now, grandmother just passed away and I had little contact with her I think my family now realizes how much time we never spend together as a family, I think this even has opened the eyes of my family. I hope it doesn't take something like this for you, good luck.
2007-03-08 06:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same with my family. It has been torn apart. When I was younger everyone was so jolly and loving. But really, there was a lot of jealousy against my mom. Her sisters envied her because even though she struggled the most (having kids at a young age, didn't finish school) she is now at the top of her game (got her masters and all). Two of her sisters tried to tamper with her happiness. Now I'm 21 and I 'm staying by myself and immediate family (mother, siblings and father and grandmother) everyone else is on their own. I think its better that way. You stay with your family and I stay with mine. Alot of families are being destroyed today because of jealousy. i wished that I had parents who were married and loving towards each other. Same with family members.
2007-03-08 07:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fam isn't that close. I know people that talk about their lives with their moms and dads... but I don't really.
I think part of it is that my parents are so old. I'm 26, and my parents are older than all of my friends parents - even some of my older co-worker's parents!! My dad is 68 and my mom is 63.
I don't think it's necessarily BAD that we're not that close. It's just how we are. I still love them and listen to their advice, and think they did a good job raising me. But once you set a dynamic to a relationship, it's not going to change overnight.
If you really want to be close with someone, they have to reciprocate the feeling, and you both have to be ready to work hard at it.
Hope this makes you feel better :)
2007-03-08 06:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on that. Sometimes not even your immediate family can stay close. My family is the same way. Cousins Aunts and uncles, its soo difficult to get along now a days. I envy close familys sometimes, because it looks as if they really are having genuin love for each other, but who knows.
2007-03-08 06:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by inland102 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, I know it hurts cause that's your family, but you have to go on. You tried to reunite them and it didn't work, but you took that extra step. I know how you feel because I feel like I'm all alone, when it comes to my family. When my mom died there was no more family for me. My father and brother acted like nothing happened and went about their lives as they chose to live it. It's been 6 years or more and I don't even talk to them. Cherish those that you have around you now, and spend time with them, and enjoy. Life is too short for us to be unhappy, OK?
2007-03-08 06:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Venting, that's all well and good. I guess it's my turn.
I'm not sorry to say that I am one of those people that want as little to do with their family as possible. I'm 18, but I still "live" at home (I'm either at school, work, or my girlfriend's, and when I get home, I go straight to my room). I haven't seen anyone in my family outside of my household in years, and I honestly have no problem with it.
2007-03-08 06:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family is the exact same way. I try to get close to them, but they don't really try to get close back. Depressing eh? But over the last couple they've been getting a little better cuz I've been pestering them until they talk.
You're not alone girl. Don't give up.
2007-03-08 06:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very close to parts of my family and I love them very much. There are other parts that I barely know. I think a lot of families are like that.
2007-03-08 06:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, every family has its own issues. So don't make this worry you too much. Although maybe you should do something about it, like maybe call a family re-union.
2007-03-08 06:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Missylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋