I am from asian family and I have black friends. And yes, I still live in a city where we have segregated proms. My mother is "okay" with letting me go but her boyfriend who is white won't let me go. He said that he won't see his so called "daughter" to be seen in a black prom. He said that he won't let my name associate with those of blacks. I am a senior in high school and this prom means everything to me. I literally begged him and cried but it seems like nothing will change his mind. Please help! My mom said it don't matter to her. It's between me and him. I don't know what to do. This is devastating!
2007-03-08 06:23:40 · 29 answers · asked by GlamGurl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Common Sense: I would like to ask why you won't if it were up to you?
2007-03-08 06:27:20 · update #1
I have white AND black friends. The black prom is hosted by black students and the white prom by white students. I don't want to go to the white prom because I don't know many people there however, I know majority of people at the black prom. Everybody's invited regardless of whether you are blk or wht but why in the world would a white person wanna go to a blk prom where they are going to be treated like "S***" and VICE VERSA???
2007-03-08 06:45:56 · update #2
Just go! Sometimes you have to realize that it's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission. You only live once so do whatever you want and don't look back
2007-03-08 06:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Derek F 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have your friend hold on to your converse for you the day or so before prom, leave in heels and have your friend give you the converse in the car so you can switch them. Then switch back into heels before you get home and have your friend give you the shoes the next day or sneak them in under your dress or something lol. Best of luck! EDIT- If you parents won't let you wear the sneakers then you'll have to sneak them. Plus sneaking them is much easier than trying to convince stubborn parents. You'd only have to wear the heels for about 10 minutes or so until you can switch into sneakers. They won't be comfortable but they won't kill you either.
2016-03-28 23:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live?!? I've never heard of anything so ridiculous in my life. Especially in this day and age. I feel like I just took a step back into the 50's & 60's. Segregated proms!? How much more stupid can that possibly be?
Go to the prom w/ the boy who you like the most. Wear a pretty dress and dance the night way. Color of a person's skin means NOTHING!
2007-03-08 06:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do hope that segregated proms are not sponsered (paid for) by your public school. I see nothing wrong with a private graduation party inviting anyone they want and if most are black or white or brown or red well why should anyone care. He must have known who your friends were during the school year and should not have been suprised when you wanted to go to the same party as your friends. If it does not matter to your Mom then go. It is not between you and him it is between you and your Mom.
2007-03-08 06:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by ambernpeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are Asian, why are you invited to the prom if it is an all black affair? If your mother is Asian, and her boyfriend is white, they are also a mixed couple. What a shame for you, that your Moms boyfriend is a racist, and he is IN a mixed relationship. Your Mom said you could go, but I think that she is the one who will suffer at the hands of her boyfriend, if you disrespect him. I am sorry honey, you should keep the peace at home, because your Mom has to deal with the consequences. She said you could go because she does not want you to be mad at her. She knows her boyfriends stand on this, and she would rather him be the bad guy! Good Luck to you!
2007-03-08 06:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Angel333... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh my i have never heard of having segregated proms that blows me away.....i would think this man is JUST a boyfriend not a parent even by marriage so he has no right to come between you and your mom if she said you can go then that should be the end of the battle you might want to talk to your mother and tell her how you are feeling and "its between you and him" isn't good enough if he still has the power to stop you from doing what she says is OK.
2007-03-08 06:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually really appalling that there is such a thing as a "black prom". Sounds like quite a stretch. This is 2007 and segregation is illegal in every part of this country, especially in schools. What an insult that somewhere in this country, someone is teaching racism.
As for going to the prom, it isn't up to you mom boyfriend.
2007-03-08 06:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by dancing11freak 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What city do you live in? The world today is made up of many different ethnicity's. That is the "real world". I think that is great that you a friends with other cultures. I don't mean to be rude, but your mother's BF is not your father. If he was your father my response would be different. Your almost an adult, and if your mom says that it is okay, I would go. Your mom's BF seems a bit racist. Is he comfortable with your mom also being a minority?
2007-03-08 06:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by pretty_as_me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHY does your mother's boyfriend have ANY say-so in what you do or don't do? That is my first more important question.
Secondly - your mother is OK with his extreme prejudice?
If I were you I'd sit down again and speak candidly with your Mom about YOUR life - NOT his life and let her know that you are not that appreciative of his making decisions concerning you - particularly since you are close to be grown yourself and may soon leave the family home.
Good luck! You seem like a very nice young woman and I wish you well :-)
2007-03-08 06:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really sad situation, both the fact that you have segregated proms and the fact that he is such a bigot that he won't let you go.
I'm a mother, and I hate to say this...but if your mom says it's okay then to heck with the boyfriend. If your mom says no thats one thing but he's not your father or your step father. I say go, it should only be a decision between you and your mother.
2007-03-08 06:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You mom's boyfriend is stupid B-cause all blacks are not the same,it's the same for white people,they R renomed as dirty and nasty and when it's raining they smell.I'm sorry of being rude but that man don't know anything,I'm sure that he never leave his house to go anywhere,he just stay stuck up in is chair.
Girl,U are a good girl, just go,live your life,enjoy the prom.
Don't change B-cause we need people like U in the world,the people who don't see the skin color as barrier.
Good girl
2007-03-08 06:37:57 · answer #11 · answered by diana s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋