I was dating this guy for 2 years. we lived together and all that. We had a house we were renting. so it was almost like we were married. His friends mother passed away so he moved in and another one of our friends moved in. So, any who me and him were perfect for about 6 months until the friends moved in. No more alone time or any of that. So, i guess in a way i got needy for time, so when he had to much or got confused he would move out. He never cheated on me or anything like that. Anyways, so we have been broken up now for about 9 months and we have been debating if we were going to work things out. And as of 2/14 i gave up. Well, i met this great guy and he treats me awesome and today THE EX called. and now im all confused bc of course he still has my heart and i still love him. He said that he's stupid and that he loves me. And maybe i dont even need advice as much as to get this off my chest. Anyways, thanks.
2007-03-08 06:22:08 · 38 answers · asked by HEART ACHE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay let me update this. i dont think i did a very good job explaining things. He came back the ex and wanted to give me the world and i knew he was ready, he proved it, we dated for like 2 months but i just wasnt ready. so we broke up. everytime we try datign someone else it always goes back to each other. and now i dont want to loose my ex but i dont want to loose the new guy either. He's a good man and all but also my heart's not there. we just started seeing each other like 2 or 3 weeks ago...
2007-03-08 06:37:27 · update #1
i am also VERY sorry i put stooping to low, a lot of people make fun of people for asking these kind of questions. BUT THANKS TO ALL OF YOU WHO ANSWERED SERIOUSLY, THANKS.
2007-03-08 06:43:30 · update #2
ok, He does have my heart. And life with him....GOD...i couldnt have been happier. But for someone reason, i do and dont want to go back to that. But we are comfortable with each other and what we had i think is rare. But I dont know if i want to persue things with the new guy or not. I love my ex and i always will but some days it's hard to know that its over and some days i want my ex back so bad.. . . . . and again SORRY about the comment.
2007-03-08 06:49:47 · update #3
i mean somedays i want to move on and not deal with it and others i miss him and cant live without him,. ya know?
2007-03-08 06:56:43 · update #4
take both guys and sleep with them
2007-03-08 06:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by RelientKayers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that if we put your relationship into a marriage perspective, I see you and your "hubby" being separated and/or divorced. It's like neither one of you are fully committed for some reason.
I understand your compassion for your ex, but he has been an "ex" for mutiple times. Perhaps, the new guy - or even a "breather" from dating any guys for 6 months or so - will help you get your head in line so that you will provide more maturity in handling guys. Sometimes, we mature late in life. I didn't find the right guy until I was 46 yrs old. I hope you don't have to wait that long! LOL
Take care; think things through - maybe prayer might help you decide, too.
030807 6:01
2007-03-08 11:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart!!
Think of it like this, You say you love him, but are you in love with him?
You all had the chance to live together, alone for a little while, was it everything you had hoped and more, were there things you saw about him, you didn't like?
If you doubt yourself enough to be asking the question, seems to me like you already know the answer.
Give the other guy a chance, tell your first that your not asking him to wait or anything, but that you gave him time and that you need some time of your own.
If it is meant to be, guess what, it will be.
Hang in there, give yourself some slack, we have all been in these shoes, or a similar pair, love takes preparation, time and patience.
2007-03-08 06:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already answered your own question. You love him and he has your heart. The other great thing is he admitted he was stoopid. Hooray! Sounds like he is learning from his mistakes and maturing. Two really terrific charactaristics in a guy if you ask me.Sometimes the way to get from Point A to Point B is not alwasy a straight line. Ya know?
My advice? Go for it, but DO NOT live with him. May seem old fashioned, but it really does make him respect you more.
2007-03-08 06:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by TracyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back - the new guy treats you better. If your ex was willing to throw in the towel as soon as things got rough clearly he would not make a good long term relationship. Life is full of ups and downs - you want someone that will stick around when the going gets tough.
2007-03-08 06:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would stand back, kind of start over again. Maybe date both guys for a while, or once and twice, not sleeping with either. Get your head straight and figure out what is best for YOU before you jump back in the bed, figuratively speaking.
By the way, I don't think you have sunk to low.
2007-03-08 06:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
At least your ex is man enough to admit he made a mistake and for that I applaud him . If what you 2 had was special , I would go for it and besides you still love each other .
So now the ball is in your court and you must decide which one is the better man .
Good Luck
C
2007-03-08 06:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does sound like you have it under control, but if he was moving out on you when times got tuff, what makes you think he won't keep playing those games still? If you have a great guy now, don't let him go!!! Good guys are hard to come by these days!
2007-03-08 06:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by CSI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly why give up something that could lead to something more? The EX, sure you harbor feelings for him but in my opinion nothing good usually comes from an EX. In the beginning it could, but in the end, whatever issues you were dealing with before will represent yourself.
Move on and enjoy the "new" great guy!
2007-03-08 06:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just seriously think on why you guys split, and was it really worth the split or was it just childish fustration, and swell for the other guy, if you do decide to get back with ur ex, just tell him the truth. Never ever lie in situations like this.
2007-03-08 06:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the guy has some cheek waiting until you were happy to relise what a loser he was for letting you go and i wanna say why ruin your happiness but from experience there is always going to be that one guy that you just cant let go of and he'l always take peice of your hert with him when you do.. go and give it another try for the sake of love but tell him that there will be no mates living or involved in ur relationship .. also u should watch u me and dupree if u have a sense of houmor
2007-03-08 06:30:50 · answer #11 · answered by Pepsi cola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋