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Question

hey i want to talk to this girl who is really nice and friendly< she goes to my church. im 13 (14 in the summer) and she is 13 (14 soon also) I want to know what i can say that isn't stupid and that she would like. we see each other wednesdays and sometimes sundays. im homeschooled she is public schooled. i found out what her name is it's sarah! i really want to know thank you!

i can't actually ask a girl on a date till im 17 but i can hang out with them hellpppp!!
plus i need kinda step by step instructions please

i don't go to the movies often either. plus im 13 i can't drive and i can't take a girl with us to the movies anyway.

ps what i mean by step-by-step is like what exactly do i say to her... i am serious please

i kno i sound desperate but i need help
anyone who has had a crush knows about how it feels
please help

Answer 1

First work out what to say,
A) Comment- you know just make a comment. This would give her a chance to lead the conversation rather then you. If she is really interested she will take the hint and start talking but she maybe shy so if she is this might not be the way to go. (Example) Wow it's really hot today, I can't wait until it's summer.-something like that.
B) Question-it gives you a chance to find out something about her and if she is actually free to hang out with you.
(Example) Are you glad it's nearly summer?
C) Compliment -This may make her feel good about herself but some people can get defensive. It gives her the chance to see that you've noticed her and appreciated all the effort she has gone to. Something about her clothes or maybe even her personality. But it depends how deep you are in the crush. (Example) You are so much fun to hang out with.

I know the examples I gave are a bit dorky but you've seen alot of her so adapt what you say around that. It is also helpful to research about her (without stalking) and find out her intreasts. Slip a few things into the conversation.
(Example) You find out that she likes, dogs.
Conversation
You- It's really hot today.
Her- I know I can't wait till it's summer.
You- I know it will be more enjoyable when i walk my *DOG*
Her- (intreasted) You have a dog?
You- Yeah she's called Shelly.

Obviously this is an example I don't know whether eitherof you have a dog it's about finding common intreats. Another thing to remeber is to 'HAVE FUN' Flirting and talking to people should never be a chore it should be exciting. Once you've approached her the worst is over and a smile, nod and hello should do that. You can ask her all of the things you've wantedto know. Have courage and bravery. Remeber she is a person with feelings and thoughts andif you want to hang out with her your mission is to get to know her. You won't do that just staring at her. When you said you were home schooled it sounded to me like you feel there is a difference between the two of you becasue of this. All this means is you have different experiences to share. She can tellyou about public school and you can tell her about home schooling. This is an example of what to do you have to decide yourself exactually what you are going to do.
Don't worry about the whole going out thing for now you are young and it's not all about the cinema it's about anywhereyou can go toghether. See how it goes.

Answer 2

I know you are looking for a step by step script, but if you were give one, you would sound very phony and practiced. That's actually worse, in my opinion, than if you just be yourself and end up saying something silly. At least it's who you are, and not something fake.

If you can't date until you are 17, then I'm assuming you want to get to know this girl as a friend. Then next time you see her, say hi. Does she know who you are? If not, introduce yourself and tell her you've seen her around at church on on wed (where do you see her on wed?). What do you two have in common? Maybe bring up something like that. Ask her how she is doing, what kinds of hobbies she has, what she likes to do for fun. This shows her that you are interested in her, but don't forget to tell her about yourself too. Then, casually mention something like "hey do you want to go grab an ice cream at etc. etc." or somewhere you can get to without a car. Or even, "what a beautiful day, do you want to go for a walk to the park?" etc.

Being yourself is the most important. If she is as friendly and nice as you say, then she will appreciate the fact you have taken an interest in her and be willing to give you a chance.

Answer 3

Sweetie, I remember what it was like to be your age, its hard, but its even harder for you since you arent allowed to openly date her. First you have to become her friend, When you are at church go up to her and say HI!! and to her friends too, just be natural and be yourself there is no way to plan a conversation it just happens, Once you have established the comfort level and that she can trust you as a friend try sitting next to her during group. Dont do to much at once then you will come across as a stalker, the trick it to keep her thinking leaving yourself a little mysterious and then once you are friends when the moment is right and youll know tell her you like her and see if she feels the same, hope i helped

Answer 4

Does your church have a youth group? If it does, then you could ask her if she's in the youth group. If she is, you could ask her if it's fun and whether or not you should join too. Or sometimes there's a youth choir. Or if they don't have a youth group, there are usually church youth activities and events so you could ask her about those. Ask are you going to the dance or barbeque or youth prayer meeting. A lot of churches have youth community services groups. Whatever kind of youth stuff your church has. Even if you don't think she knows the answers, it's a conversation starter, right?
People of all ages like to be asked questions about themselves. You could ask her what school she goes to and which classes she likes. Ask her if she participates in any sports. Ask her if she plays any musical instruments and what kind of music she likes to listen to.
Your best bet is to get involved in something at church that she may be involved in so that you can be around her and get more comfortable talking to her.

Answer 5

This is an easy one,build your confidence up,goupto her and begin talking about something that you both know(like churchand why it's good to go)find out fromothers some of the things she likes and try to build off of that.Let her know somewhere in the conversation where she is laughing or smiling that you like her (and ask for her phone number)take it nice and slow with a girlyou really like and see where it goes from there.Good luck

Answer 6

converse just at church and get to know her there, it will make her feel comfortable. Does she know your name? if not introduce yourself. ask how long she has been going there, and see what kinds of things she is into. Do a bit of investigating before hanging out with her as friends. Who knows, she may have been eying you too. just talk to her with confidence, because she will pick up on that and relax a bit more than if you were to talk to her really timidly and tense. any questions email me

Answer 7

Skipping out early is an particularly minor offense, and also you probably did have a parent signature. regardless of the truth that in case you do get busted for it, fantastically if you're a reliable pupil, i could be a great deal surprised if you got something more suitable than detention. you're letting your mind's eye pressure you out! it will be ok.

Answer 8

Your best bet is to start hanging aroud more!!!!

Girls get the wrong message if you try to avoid or even see them only once in a while.

Then when you feel you are hanging around enough. Tell her something personal (not a deep secret:they tend to tell) , she will feel special , for she was the only one you told, and tell her that to. Do NOT FLIRT.

Not yet anyway. when you get older . that stuff will come naturaly

Answer 9

have you thought about asking your parents if she can come over for pizza and rent a movie. I know that if my 13 year old son liked a girl and asked me I would say its ok to hang out at our house in fact I would prefer it! My son is 21 and still asks the girls to come and hange out with his parents and eat pizza and watch movies. Its nice and it shows your parents that you like and trust them too! You can even have your mom call the girls parents and assure them that it is a family thing! Good LUCK! I hope it works out for you!

Answer 10

While your at church, walk up to her and say hi my name is .... and talk to her. Tell her she looks pretty, while you are at church. Don't make it too obvious you like her at first, but just be like you would to your best friend. Talk to your parents and ask them if you could invite her over for dinner or something. Get to know her, by talking to her at church. Maybe e-mail her, or call her and become friends with her.