HELP PLEASE THIS SITUATION IS FRUSTRATING!!! i need your input please :(?

Question

been with my bf for a month and a half im 20,hes 24.He keeps being hot/cold and i dont know how to handle it!hes brought me home to meet his parents,hes met my family and we hung out all weekend(with friends)we live about 30min away from each other.i know hes really stressed out right now but im feeling neglected.sometimes hes calling me all the time,sometimes he doesnt.i saw him on tues night and we had a good time,but then last night i called him at 5:30 and he sounded down and he told me to call him in a bit,so i called him a 8:30 and he didnt pick up,then he called back 30min later.i was out with friends so i told him id call back when i got home but when i did,he didntpick up.i text him today asking if he wants to hang out later and he still hasnt responded(hes at workbut it takes 2 seconds to say yes/no)im starting to hate how he is so back and forth it really frustraing and confusing. what do u think i should do and what do u think is happening?this is really hard on me

Answer 1

it sounds like hes acting immature but then again he is 20....but maybe hes not ready to get that serious this soon....its only been only a month...give him some space he will come around

Answer 2

It sounds like to me that perhaps he is feeling smothered. Being that you've only been together for a month and a half, are you sure you are bf and gf ? Are you sure you are exclusive ? In these types of situations, the best thing to do is to ask. Ask him if he would like to see other people, or if maybe he's just a bit stressed right now. Does he need space ? Just tell him you're concerned and want to be sure that YOU aren't the problem. Communication is key in any relationship. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hi

You only been dating him for a month . I would not give up on him just yet . When you do see him express to him how you feel not in an angry tone and see what he tells you . Playing phone tag I have been there before and I know that it is very frustrating . Sometimes people love the game of chase but when you stop calling so much that is when they want to call you .

He will call you just give it time .

Good luck and take care
C

Answer 4

Hmm....well with all of the cat and mouse games, it's time to ask him what the deal is. You don't have to be confrontational about it. Games that go on like this don't need to,you know? You deserve to have an answer and be treated better than what you're getting. You're right, it takes a split second to give an answer. If he comes up with an excuse/reason that just doesn't sound right to you, it probably isn't.

Answer 5

No offense, but he need to find a new girlfriend.

If you are this bad after only seeing each other for a month and a half, imagine how bad you will be later in the relationship. You seem needy and controlling, not good traits in a girlfriend. This is the point you are missing...IT'S ONLY BEEN A MONTH AND A HALF.

Hope he dumps you and moves on quickly.

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend did the same thing during the first couple weeks and i was so confused. Maybe your guy was in a meeting or something and couldn't get to his phone.....Definitely talk to him and tell him that it hurts and you don't understand why he's acting like that....if he doesn't give you a good answer, look at your situation and see if your really comfortable with it.

Answer 7

It's easy, he can go to bars and you can't. You live far enough away for him to not have to care too much. You are there when he wants you to be and he is not there for you. Do the math and don't waste any more time or tears. Find someone that deserves you. Then again you are 20, go have fun and let the guys be sad for not having you!

Answer 8

Okay. First, are you sleeping with him? If you are stop. Women tend to get 'needy' or feel 'neglected' once they start sleeping with someone. Honestly, you haven't even known him long enough to call him your "boyfriend", or to be sleeping with him or feel neglected. Sounds like both of you are headed down Drama River without a paddle. You sound way too concerned about him. My advice? Cultivate mature female friendships. Women can be a great support system. Learn about yourself. Treat yourself well (I don't mean buy an outfit, I mean get to know yourself and what your insecurities are and work on them). In order to be in a happy, healthy love relationship, you need to BE HAPPY, HEALTHY and LOVE YOURSELF first.

Answer 9

I was in a similar situation. The only way to deal with this is to be strong. You have to stop obsessing with him and make him feel that you are ok without him. If he realizes how it feels when you dont show importance to him then he might turn around. But if he doesnt then probably it wasnt meant to be. I myself have been back and forth atleast 10 times...i m not kidding. But now i think we both are strong and I stop obsessing about him if he starts to ignore me. I just ignore him back. Trust me, if you show more importance to men than they show you, then it backfires. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

Three things that could be going on.
1He's totally confused and doesn't know what he wants.
2 He's seeing you and someone else on the side.
3 or he's mentally unstable.

Either one of these I'd say Bye Bye.
As we say Sh%t or get off the pot,
Sounds like you've put up with enough

Answer 11

i am in the same situation as you although there are 3 girls which i like and i can't decide who i want to be with. i think you should give him the silent treatment for a few days and then he will realise what he is missing and come running back. i know this becos a few girls have done this before to me and it has worked each time. let me know if this helps