What should I do?

Question

My parents(who are pastors) were just out of town for a week and while they were gone I found out that at a New Years Eve party, which mostly pple from our church's worship team attended. Many of them got terribly drunk and pple new to our church were at the party and were wondering if its acceptable for church leaders to get drunk. When my parents got back I wanted to tell them. But, the day before they got back, one lady who got drunk told me she was stepping down from the worship team to help the youth group form a worship team, because we dont have one yet. I'm very involved in youth(being I'm only 15) and I'm a kind of junior leader, and I want our youth group to grow and I know we desperatly need a worship team. But, if I told on the people, my dad would get mad and the whole youth worship team proabably wouldnt happen. What should I do? Should I tell my dad or just keep quiet?

Answer 1

Wow, what a horrible position these people have put you in!
My advice is to do the right thing no matter what you think it might cost. If your dad does find out about this (and honestly, sweetie, he will.. someone will tell eventually) and finds out you knew and didn't say something, the trust between you will be seriously damaged.
I think you already know the right thing to do.. just do that and I bet you'll find your teen worship team gets created without any problems at all.

Hugs to you..

Answer 2

I think that you should inform your parents of what happened. If it is the will of the Lord, then the whole youth group worship team thing will unfold in His time. Allow for God to work on this through your actions of telling your father. It would not be a good idea for leaders in the church, especially youth leaders, to be getting drunk all the time because it would set the example that it is ok to get drunk as a Christian, which the Bible clearly says it is not. Although it is ok for someone to drink alchohol once in a while, it is never ok to get drunk, so it would just make sense for these people to be removed from their places of leadership in the church because church leaders are supposed to set a biblical example of behaviour and relationship with God to those who are not involved in church leadership. Therefore, I will conclude by saying trust in the Lord, tell your father what happened, and then allow God to work in your youth group from there.

Answer 3

I would tell. I've been doing Youth Work for 18 years, that is unacceptable behavior for a leader. Especially if they want to work with youth. A leader who willingly gives into temptation like that will not be blessed by God. Your youth worship team will not be blessed. The pastors need to determine if this was a one time mistake or a pattern. If I knew of a fellow youth leader getting drunk, i would step in, get them help, then restore them. What would Jesus Do?

Answer 4

I wonder about the relationship you have with your parents. I know that they would want you to tell them. It might clear up a few things for them, and you.

Why didn't you tell the woman that wanted to become a part of the youth group what you were thinking?

It sounds to me that you are running scared. Stop it! God will get you through this. No need to be scared. You might try not to be judgemental, but also don't treat this as something that you have to not discuss. You need to understand certain things, don't let the devil stop you from understanding. This might not even go the way you think it will.

See you where we get up there! ( :

Answer 5

Definitely tell your dad. He needs to make a wise decision about this persons role in the church and if you do not tell him it will come out later. Perhaps after many people have been hurt.
The Truth and whole Truth is the best policy. Because I am sure that your dad will Pray about the situation and ask for God's Guidance before he does anything.

Answer 6

Well it's your conscience that you are gonna have to deal with. If you want not to feel guilty then let the truth set you free. Tell your dad and get it over with. Maybe he'll still do the youth group but with different people in charge.

Answer 7

Let me tell you all about alcohol. Alcohol has it's good and bad sides. The good is that you become more relaxed, get more confidence, have more fun. The bad is that you can get sick, do stupid things, and in the long run become dependent leading to loss of money, abuse, neglect etc.

While the good sides of booze is admittedly a false temporary high, sometimes life gives us enough stress that it's okay to get drunk. It's important to know your limit, and stay in control of yourself while drunk.

Some of my best memories are drunk, birthday parties, dancing, music, good times.

Education is the key, rather than feeling they were doing something wrong, you should instead ask them to educate you on alcohol. Though really the best education is dancing on a tables, hugging the toilet, and being hungover the next day, nothing says learning like first hand knowledge.

Have fun in life, and don't be so worried about "doing wrong" and more about not living life. Now I'm not saying go get hammered at 15, maybe wait a few years, but education is the key.

Answer 8

Why don't you put your trust in God to keep the worship team on tract. I would get the ones out of there that feel it is o.k. to do this kind of stuff and let the chips fall where they may. Is God involved or not? If he is involved he will handle it.

Answer 9

things must be said . God knows you wants a worship team.
The lord will provide. So do whats right your dad needs to know this.

Answer 10

Kids raised in strict religious upbringings often express their frustration in maladaptive ways, the so-called "PK" syndrome.

While I am not a Christian, I have read your holy books in some of their original languages, and I must say that biblically, telling your parents is what you have to do.