I'm not calling him this time.?

Question

My boyfriend and I havent' talked for two weeks, because we are in a fight. He has tons of pride and usually won't call me first, I am always the one calling and saying I want to work things out, I miss him, etc.. I have been really good to him in our relationship, very loving and not playing any games. He is kind've a "bad boy" type and has taken my love for granted. He is good to me sometimes and sometimes he is very selfish and just a jerk. The longest I have waited to call him after a fight has been a week and a half. It has been two weeks and I am not going to call him. My questions are:
I was good to him and am a good catch, will he realize he lost something good? Do men usually come to this conclusion and regret messing up? Will not calling him this time, make him want me or maybe scare him?

Answer 1

dumb him, you deserve better. he's probably moved on anyways. if he doesn't have fight in trying to keep you in his life then he isn't worth fighting to keep. believe me from personal experience -he's getting his now- lol, but It will be hard for a few weeks, lucky you theirs no child involved hopefully.

Answer 2

Gina I don't think it will scare him, the bottom line is you just don't mean as much to him as he means to you. I know it's harsh and you don't want to hear that, but it's true. I've been through this with my own "badboy" type and it never panned out with us. When things were good, they were very good and it seemed like we were just perfect together. But it seemed like whenever we'd get to a certain point in the relationship, really close, then he'd start his s.hit. I don't know if that means they are "scared" but all I know is it hurts and trust me that it's not worth it. Let me tell you that once I came in my ex's bedroom and he was in bed, asleep, with another woman. I was so devasted (especially since I went to his place at 7:30 that morning, coffee in hand, ready to help him pack and move!). I was so hurt and do you know he woke up, said "all s.hit" as I ran out of the room and he DID NOT chase after me nor did he CALL ME. Almost three weeks passed and he never called. Finally I couldn't take it anymore and I called him...and you know what he was doing? He was having a pool party at his new apartment complex! Totally NOT thinking about me as I spent the past three weeks in tears and actually vomitting because it hurt so bad. I'm telling you this because if it's been two weeks and he hasn't called you, he probably won't ever call. He's so not worth it. A man who's into you will call, see if you are okay and try to make things right. Move on, let it hurt , cry, scream whatever, but you have to take care of yourself because no one else will. Also, I'm now engaged to a wonderful man, and guess who is telling me exactly what you are asking about....yep, the ex. He IMs me all the time telling me "you are good woman, I wish I would have realized what I had when I had it". Well now it's too late. So yes, men do realize what they messed up, but unfortunately it's usually a day late and a dollar short. Good luck.

Answer 3

If he's smart and has any feelings for you he would've already realized that he messed up and put his pride aside for a minute. When he looks back on this in the future I am sure he'l regret it. Don't call him, if this is a repeat situation what makes you think it's not going to happen again. He may realize that he wants you, but are you going to be willing to let him have you again when he didn't treat you right in the past. My advice, don't call him. He'll realize what he lost one day and it will eat at him forever. Move on you'll find someone that can appreciate you and all that you do for him. Good luck!

Answer 4

You are worth more than that type of treatment. If you had a better opinion of your self-worth and truly believed you were a good and loving person, you would not have put up with this behavior to start with. If you really think you deserve a man you have to chase and beg to be with you, go for it. If you want to be happy, go to counselling for a while and figure out why you ended up with someone who is mentally abusive - then you can be open to finding a Nice Guy who treats you well and you are attracted to!

Answer 5

You did the right thing of NOT calling him. Serve him right. You must let him realize that you are everything to him. Hang in there girl. You really deserve a better man. He seems to be a jerk to you. I think you should forget about him. Move on with your life. You must give yourself a chance by meeting new people and not depending on him only.

Answer 6

Sounds like you deserve better. I know it sucks, but I really think you should move on. He should be good to you ALL the time. Not just sometimes. If sometimes he's "selfish and just a jerk", clearly he's not worth your attention. You can find better. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 7

FIRST MISTAKE: Dating a bad boy WHY: because they are usually egotistical jerks. He thinks he is too good to call you.

SECOND MISTAKE:WASTING your time being good to him. You need to spend your energy on a guy who DESERVES to be treated good and will appreciate and respect you. Who wotn be afraid to call you first if you two do get in a fight.

Guys always realize too late when they have lost something good and they regret it

MY ADVICE TO YOU: MOVE ON and dont event hink about calling him he DOESNT DESERVE you! Find a guy who is NOT a bad boy and be good to him he will appreciate you and be good to you as well!

Answer 8

Ehh i hate this type of thing because your right either way your kinda screwed...if u call him its like he has you right where he wants you..i give u props for waiting this long..you dont want to show your bf that your weak and need him..however i am guilty of that myself its alot harder than most think when we care so much..looking at your situation from the outside i think screw him you deserve better..however..being in a relationship and dealing with similiar things i cant let go and you dont want it to be over you want things resolved..people have told me things like dump him then like its just that easy!...well i understand that i love him as prolly you do....anyways...do what u feel is right just dont let him manipulate you....its not fair for you to have to do...and keep pushing to let him see your point and how u feel as frustrating as it might get..
and a tip....
dont tell him how he shouldve acted just how you feel for example its more effective if u do talk and u say...it was really hard not calling and i felt horrible when you didnt call me because i want to see that u care..instead of...why didnt u call me you shouldve called me....goodluck

Answer 9

Girl don't worry about all that you doing the right thing.Fu ck him he'll be back they always come back.I wouldn't call his a$$ and if he keep dragging his a$$ when he did come back i would have me a new man! Remember A good woman is hard to find,You can find a dog a$$ man anywhere.You the commodity he's the oddity.Let it burn

Answer 10

You have been used. Suggest that you back away and stay away from him. He may have several women on the side that you don't know about. He should have regretted the first break up with you, and made efforts to hang on, which he didn't. Sorry, hon. But I don't think he cares at all.