Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time. He was my childhood crush and we have known each other for 7 years. I love him to death but lately i have been getting sick of him. Little things will bug me and annoy me and i am losing my attraction to him. Me and him went out before but i broke up with him because we didn't have a connection anymore. Its starting to get that way and i want to stop it before we lose our relationship. When i broke up with him before it hurt him so bad, He felt so bad that his parents disliked me for a while which is saying a lot because me and his family were very close. And now i am on perfect terms with them. My boyfriend is everything i would want in a man. So why do i feel like this again and what could i do to save our relationship because one day i want to marry this man. Please help!!!
2007-03-08 05:34:03 · 14 answers · asked by Yeppers! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha. No Im not a lesbian. Come on i need real help, not judgmental comments
2007-03-08 05:42:03 · update #1
Maybe you guys are spending too much time together! Take some time apart and do something fun and exciting and he should do the same, that way you guys will have new experiences to share with one another, also you give each other a chance to miss the other. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If your always together things can get a little boring and predictable, so spice things up do something new together that will rekindle your love. It sounds like you guys love each other, but your smothering each other..make time for friends and your own family. The time apart will actually help your relationship. Also spend time together but just not as much time, because it doesn't sound like you want to break up, just that you need a break-from each other! Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-08 05:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by moks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are having doubts, than perhaps you need to ask yourself if he really is "everything" you want or not... maybe you are just too familiar with him and he has become more of a friend in your mind instead of a lover? In other words, if you are already losing the "spark" for this man, think of how you will feel in 10 years!!! They say that however you feel and whatever problems you have prior to getting married will only INTENSIFY 10x once you are actually married -- is that what you want? I would NEVER try to talk myself into having deeper feelings for a person than what my instincts are giving me. Don't become another divorce statistic. You can become friendly with the RIGHT guy's parents once you are married, your friend's parents are not the only ones you can bond with! YOUR happiness is what matters at this point because if you make the mistake of marrying without 100% love and desire, you will ALL be miserable in the end.
2007-03-08 05:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing things you both enjoy. Explore new things. Talk with him about things that you have in common. More often than not you will lose feelings because people grow use to the relationship so they stop trying hard to impress the other person. Go on "adventures".Try new things together. Maybe a ski trip, or maybe camping. This might seem odd to say. But if you are older and intimate with him, try new things to spice stuff up in bed
2007-03-08 05:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by semiphez1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact you have been together so long, maybe you have lost some of the initial spark. If this guy really is everything you wanted in a man, then don't sweat the small stuff. Try to recreate that spark. If that doesn't work, then maybe you're better off being real good friends.
2007-03-08 05:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats normal you know him so well that little things he does annoys you! I wouldnt recommend breaking up with him. But spending less time together. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you guys spend less time together then that means you two will really miss each other. You guys need to spice up your relationship since you feel like you losing connection. You two need to sit down and talk he needs to know EXACTLY what you are feeling and thinking about the situation.
2007-03-08 05:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be a perfect man but maybe not the perfect man for you. You can't control how you feel about somebody and if you're getting sick of him it might be best for you to move on. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but you need to be honest with yourself and with him. Otherwise maybe you guys just spend too much time together, as much as I love my boyfriend I know that if I spend too much time with him we will get on each other's nerves.
2007-03-08 05:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In marriage they call that the 7 year itch. Sounds like a long time to be together and not be commit ed by marriage. You need some space to figure out where you are going in this life. Your letter speaks well of him and his family and their opinion of you so that is definitely a plus. One day you want to marry him. You need to work on whats bothering you at this point. I think in your heart of hearts you may know~~~~Jill
2007-03-08 05:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try spending some time apart absence makes the heart grow fonder. Too much of your significant other could be bad thing every one needs space some times.
2007-03-08 05:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off of Yahoo!Answers and tell this guy how you feel...
obviously you care about him, enough to post a question but you are definately talkin to the wrong person about this situation...you need to confide more in him and let him know whats on your mind
2007-03-08 05:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up. Well don't be no fool a good man is to hard to find. Take a vacation or something just take a little time to your self. Maybe it's not him at all maybe it's you.
2007-03-08 05:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋