I really need help in getting my 2yr. old son out of diapers and on the potty.?

Question

I've tried using "pull-ups" and using toys and books to get him to stay on the potty, but they are just not helping. I know boys might take a little bit longer to learn than girls but how long? My daughter was a breeze but its a battle everyday and i don't want it to be. somebody help

Answer 1

I took time for my son to train. My husband took him to the bathroom everytime he used it.
Also, your son sees your stress as my son saw mine. Try not to take it personal he will get there!

Answer 2

my son was completely trained in two weeks and it was right before his third b-day. boys are alittle slower then girls in that dept. though. My pediatrician told me to get a sticker chart to put on the fridge. Explain to your son what it is. Take him to a toy store and let him pick out some kind of small toy that he wants. Tell him that you will buy that for him if he has a week will all stickers. At dinner time you and him get the stickers and let HIM put a sticker on the chart just for wearing big boy underwear. Two stickers if at all during the day he pee's in the potty and three stickers for poo poo. Make a huge deal out him using the bathroom. Clapping, telling him he is a big boy and giving praise to him will help him see the importance in using the potty. Now what was the hardest thing for me was putting my son in underwear and having accidents all day long until he realized he did not want to be wet again. My pediatrician was sooo right when he told me to do this. It worked like a charm. The diapers and pull ups do not give them the extreme wet uncomfortable sensation of wet underwear. There are plastic underwear covers you can buy at Target that is what I used so we didn't have to go through so many clothes and could leave the house. I wish you the best of luck and I will tell you my son was completely trained in 2 weeks

Answer 3

Go to barronseduc.com and order the potty book for boys, I used the potty book for girls to train my daughter. It's pretty simple it is the story of a little boy/girl learning potty train and it makes them want to "go potty"as well! Good luck!P.S. You can also get it at the bookstore.

Answer 4

My son refused to go on the potty until he was 2 1/2, he just couldn't do it. When he moved up to the next room in preschool, all the other kids were using the potty and he just did it one day. Still wouldn't poop on the toilet. He would hold it then go in his pants. That lasted for about 6 months!! Finally, I caught him running to hide and rushed him to the toilet and he did it. It took a few times, but he got the hang of it.

I wasn't going to rush him to potty train. Why make them grow up faster, I didn't mind changing diapers. Kids do things in their own time and don't rush to please their parents.

Good Luck and be patient.

Answer 5

If it is a battle then STOP he is not ready. My little girl was not ready until she was three. And don't use the pull ups they look and feel like a diaper so is defeating the point. A lot of time we cave to the pressure of everyone else asking us or telling us that the child should be trained and forget to listen to the child.

Answer 6

OMG! Don't push him...

Some boys will get totally turned away from the potty. My son was almost 3 when we (myself, daycare) got him fully trained..in the daytime. He still has accidents at night and thats how we look at it...an ACCIDENT. I use sleepovers, goodnights and they are giving him the confidence staying dry throughout the night.

We use the 3 dry nights = 1 night without a goodnight and it's totally working for us

My son just turned 6.

Answer 7

I totally agree with Barbara B. I've been through the potty-learning process 6 times now. Four girls and two boys. The girls, on average, were ready to start by age 2 to 2.5. The two boys were later-- my older son between 2.5 and 3 years, and my younger son refused to have anything to do with it until he was 3.5. I still considered this normal, since really the child is in control and if you try to force them, all you get is problems and issues from it. I knew he would eventually decide it was time.

Potty *training* is possible, but with younger kids it is often more like *parent* training. We learn our childrens' potty habits and patterns, and remind them to go use the potty, often needing to help them through most steps of the process. Children who teach themselves to use the potty, although it happens at a somewhat later age, can do it ALL by themselves from start to finish. It's their choice, their idea, their success! That's why I prefer to call the process potty *learning* instead. I did "potty train" my first two children, and it backfired big time with my oldest (a girl). The next time, I was very involved in helping my son and encouraging him to use the potty; he *learned*, but it was me who got *trained*. We got lucky that he was cooperative, but still he wasn't *really* doing everything by himself until much later, around 3.5 to 4 y/o or so.

My experience is that potty-learning goes much more smoothly when the following milestones are reached:

1. Child recognizes and follows the urge to use the toilet, with little or no outward motivation from parents.
2. Child WANTS to use the toilet rather than diaper/pull-up.
3. Child can go through the entire process on their own, from pulling down pants, to wiping & flushing, and getting clothes back on correctly.

This happens a lot later than age 2, IME. Closer to age 3, and for some children, not until nearer to 4 years old.

Some parents feel pressured to have their child potty-trained because "everyone else's" child is already out of diapers, or because they can't go to preschool until they're out of diapers. This is unfair to the child, though, because every child is different and reaches milestones at their own pace, not the neighbor's kids, your nephew, or whatever a preschool dictates. I've found that when children are allowed to develop at their own pace, they tend to surpass our expectations, and they have so much confidence in themselves, knowing that they made it there on their own. :)

Answer 8

My son still has not known how to use the potty i wonder if it is something with boys.! he is 3 years old.!

Answer 9

I know this is going to sound weird but have a man take him in the restroom with him when he goes. Like his Dad or your Dad or uncle or brother. It worked really well for my mom with my brothers. My daughters followed me everywhere even into the bathroom all the time and they were super easy to train

Answer 10

He's not ready yet. Not only do boys take longer, but they often aren't even ready until they are closer to three. Let time take it's course and relax. Don't battle him or it's going to make him less likely to want to go on his own.

Answer 11

Just take his diaper off first thing in the morning.

Make him help clean up messess.

Give him a Jelleybean every time he actually goes on the pot.

If he has an accident then just say "that's okay, we'll try for a Jelleybean next time"