Mothers of daughters: are there certain types of kids you don't let your girls play with?

Question

I saw on Dr. Phil one episode about this woman who wouldn't let her daughter play with "ugly" children. Whether you have the same views or not, tell me what you think. Thanks!!

By "ugly", I meant purely physical, not mannerisms. of course keep kids away from the bad seeds. I meant if you considered the child your daughter wanted to play with "looked ugly", would you let her play with them?

And, no, I don't hold that viewpoint.

Answer 1

I saw that, it was ridiculous!!! The mom wasn't even hot herself. I won't let my daughter play with wild children. Here I have my daughter and these children are running wild in a store throwing popcorn and spilling drinks on the floor. (It's a small store) and my daughter is staring at me with a confused look, my son also looking at me, and I just don't know what to tell him. That's what happens when you eat too much candy?

Answer 2

Wow, is your mom against homosexuality or something? That would explain why she was so upset about you being paired with a girl for the project. also, maybe she just felt that you weren't getting the full effect of the project because it's not the kind of union you'll have with a baby (if you're not gay). either way, I'm sorry you had to go through that with your mom. Have you tried talking with her? sit her down and ask her why she is so upset about it. tell her you do not wish to be home schooled and that you'd like to talk about this. good luck!

Answer 3

My girls aren't allowed to play with "dirty," kids that have "dirty," parents. Basically all the people I hung out with in high school, their kids. I hung out with the bad crowd, but was the good girl. I don't want my kids around someone who has a total whore for a mom. I also don't like my kids being around brats. Another woman that used to be a friend of mine brought her daughter over. I gave all the girls a snack and her daughter threw her cheerios at my girls. When that friend didn't tell her child to stop and pick up her mess, I quit letting them come around.

Answer 4

it is not the way a person looks that would make me not let my daughter play with. It would be the way the child acts~ I have a teenager and she has befriended a few kids that were not good...and what I mean by that was they were a bad influence...one smoked and was kicked out of school and the other one lied to me and even could not look me in the eye and was rude to her mom and calling her mom the "b" word....these type of teens are the one I rather keep my daughter from~ i noticed when she was around them she would try to pull that "attitude" with me and I basically told her "look that is not acceptable in my home and if she portrays and attitude and disobeys me in our home then there will be consequences..ie: no phone, no myspace...no going out with her buddies on the weekend...that kind of stuff.... when she is with her friends who are respectable then she inturn acts respectable~ and i appreciate her when she is like that~

Answer 5

If by "ugly" she meant their attitudes then I would agree but hopefully she didn't mean physically because that is just awful. I wouldn't allow my son to play with children who are disrespectful or unruly, because no matter how hard you try some aspects of the behavior does rub off. I know that not all of my son's friends are going to be angels but as long as they are basically good kids it would be ok.

Answer 6

That is sad. I let my daughters play with children that they connect with and that I know very well and it doesn't matter what their appearance is. If they are children that are looked after poorly, come from smoking homes or are aggressive then I prefer not to let them play there. Just personal preference. I want good role models for my children and other families have to be in sync with our values irregardless of what they look like. The heart matters most importantly.

Answer 7

Looks are not important to me or my children. I do not let my daughters play with ill mannered children.

Answer 8

I did not and do not allow my kids to play with kids that are brats, cussing, or rude, the looks of the child has nothing to do with it, but if a kid is trouble you dont want your child around some one bad

Answer 9

As long as she is safe I intend to allow my child to chose her own friend any way she sees fit. I hope I am raising an open minded child that while she may see the differences in people she will still respect them and not judge them and yes even befriend them.

Answer 10

I don't choose my children's friends according to their looks. I judge by their character, cleanliness, and their parents. I pay close attention to the character traits taught by their parents to be sure that I am not allowing my child to be influenced to engage in anything that I wouldn't allow. Teaching your children to choose friends based on whether or not society considers them to be attractive is awful. That teaches them that they also should be judged on the physical traits that they were born with. God created a world full of beautiful individuals. It is a matter of opinion as to what physical traits are beautiful to each of us. I may think that chubby cheeks are beautiful while you may prefer a more slender jawline. I may think big, bold eyes are beautiful while you think sleepy, bedroom eyes are more attractive. Self esteem shouldn't be based on outer beauty. Teaching them to judge a person based on outer beauty also teaches them that if they are considered ugly to someone, their self worth is less.