I been with my boyfriend for 3yrs. We always had our ups and downs but for the most part our relationship is good. I feel that the reason this relationship is so much stronger than my past relationships because we started out as friends, instead of just jumping into a committed relationship. Now, he tells me he wants to take Tiffany his "friend" to the movies. I usually trust him but now I don't know. He tells me it's not like he's cheating because he has nothing to hide and told me what he was doing. I can't help think that he will leave me. Am I overprotective?
2007-03-08 05:26:29 · 8 answers · asked by Inez J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You two need some space. Take one day that you usually hang out together and go out with some friends or by yourself, don't answer you phone for a couple of days. Trust me this is the best advice.
2007-03-08 05:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a reason that you cant go? is it like a movie that they have been waiting for? do you know tiffany? My bf has a friend and they go out to lunch sometimes but the movies is just kind of different. Although i have gone with my guy friends to the movies just the two of us and nothing is going on. but you should know the girl and the reason you are not invited.
2007-03-08 05:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this turns into an every week thing taking his "friend" out then yea i would start to worry, but if they really are friends, and hes being upfront and honest with you about it, and its not very frequently, then I dont think theres anything to worry about.
You could still talk to your boyfriend about it though. Tell him you dont want to be overprotective or controlling but it kind of makes you nervous. Tell him how you feel, and maybe suggest her coming over and all three of you hanging out so you meet her and get a feel of how they act together before they start hanging out alone.
Good luck!
2007-03-08 05:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends can be friends, but it can also lead to other things - it depends on the integrity of the people involved. You are being insecure - whether you have reason to be or not depends on the circumstances.
Make plans to do something with someone else while he is at the movies - then you guys talk about it afterwords and see what you honestly feel about the whole situation.
2007-03-08 05:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him and has been in this long term relationship and everything is as good as you say, that i think you should not be worried. Sometime people like to hang out with other friends, in this case a gf but it might just be healthy for him too, maybe he feels he cant talk about everything with you and might look for her advice, I have friends that do this with me..meaning they have a gf but turn to me or any other gf for advice. It's prob not as bad as it seems. trust him and see how things turn out, of course if this outings start adding up and he breaks plans with you for her then yes you might have a problem... so just let things happen one by one don't jump into conclusion, he might feel taht you don't trust him and hurt his feelings. good luck hope it helped
2007-03-08 05:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by GIGI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are overprotective, but I think it's odd that he wants to take another woman to the movies. If there was nothing to it, he would ask you to go along. I would probably mind my fiance having female friends, I won't lie, but if they were friends BEFORE I met him, then I'd have to deal with it but no way would I tolerate him taking her to the movies, just the two of them. That's too much like a date.
2007-03-08 05:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no, i would not let my man go to a movie with just one other girl. how would he feel if you took another guy to the movies or out to dinner. tell him how you feel. do you know this other girl?
2007-03-08 05:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
over protective ,yes but not in a bad way. you should just go to the same movie and see wha happens if they kiss....well you know what to do sry i had to be upfront
2007-03-08 05:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by pistoluser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋