Lately I have just had so much on my mind, things that shouldnt even be bothering me. I just can't seem to be happy. My boyfriend is concerned and keeps asking if I am happy and what is wrong, the thing is I don't have an answer for him.
He & I moved away from all family & friends after college, & I am really missing home, we are moving back in a few months. But in the meantime I am just wishing my life away. We have a nice apartment, decent paying jobs, nice things, a great relationship. I just keep thinking about the future and how happy I will be once we're married, or have kids, or have a house....I can't seem to just be happy with where I am in my life right now.
My parents got divorced 3 yrs ago & my mom is remarrying this summer, I didnt think the divorce affected me but now Im not so sure. I am always feeling anxious and not satisfied with my life as it is now....Should I just try harder to be happy & not wish my life away or could there really be something wrong?
2007-03-08 05:23:12 · 10 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It sounds like you're homesick and miss your family- which is normal, given the circumstances. I'm not you, so only you know if you're just being a little sad right now, or if you think you have a serious problem.
Sometimes counting your blessings, focusing on the positive, getting exercise, and talking things over is enough. I think you should take your own advice: "try harder to be happy & not wish you life away". You seem to have a lot to be thankful for, but probably haven't learned to really appreciate that yet.
Another thing that helps a lot is to take a look at your diet- are you eating a healthy balance, low on processed foods and sugar, high on nutrition?
2007-03-08 05:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jenn, I was really touched by your question. Sounds like you've been through quite a bit. I'm not a medical doctor, but I do know that what you are feeling may have a lot to do with the way that you think. Without getting too technical, it all boils down to your brainwaves or thought patterns. Let me put it this way; what you think, affects how you feel; how you feel affects your mood; your mood affects what you will think about next. Get it? Try and "visualize" a happy time in your life and then get used to that feeling and try to carry it around. You know what? It's been proven that if you smile for 60 seconds, you will actually feel happier...seriously!
Hope I've helped a bit. Stay positive and let me know if I can help:-)
To your success,
Optimizer
2007-03-08 05:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Optimizer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a sign of depression and you will waste your life thinking of every angle to supress it.
I had low grade depression for the last 3 years. I moved away from my home of 20 years, away from friends and small town atmosphere. I did not realize it affected me until I looked back and saw problems like insomnia, weight gain, sadness, apathy, lack of interest in things I like, laying around the house, thinking about every little ailment you could imagine.
I blamed it on anything and anyone including my husband.
The problem was ME. I was not coping with the direct loss of familiarity. I was in a huge city, I knew no one, did not work, did not like leaving the house, and wasted those years.
Slowly, I am moving back home. I was only 60 miles away and now I am 30 miles away. I sit here and wonder what is happening in my old home up on the mountain. The sad part is it will never be the same. That town lost many of its regulars, they all moved away. So I have been working on ME. I am the problem. The depression has lifted and rarely sneeks it ugly head.
I am taking a "Self Discovery" class that has helped alot. I am reading and learning and growing every day. As I open my mind to the Spiritual World, this world gets easier. I am more content and happy.
I realize now that I was not only mourning the loss of my town but I had empty nest syndrome (when the kids leave home out into the world and you are stuck behind). Just another phase of LIFE.
As for you, do not do like I did most of my life. Dont leave things unsaid, undone, and out of reach. Live life to the Fullest Right Now, dont wait for later. Life just has a trick of passing you by. You dont realize it until it is gone. Dont try to live your life through others (like your parents who divorced) as they have made mistakes and you dont want to follow their faults. Make your own path. Live each day like it was your last.
Fill your glass half-full, and then fill it fuller every day.
Dont turn around and try to go back to happier time like I did.
Make your Life happy right where you are and only you can do it (not your parents or boyfriend).
My biggest suggestion is to Chart a Course. Write down everything you want to accomplish in one column and everything you have done in the other. Now work on putting the thing you DO accomplish in the other column. It will take time but it is worth it.
2007-03-08 05:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you move? Did you think that things would be better there, too? And they weren't. When you move back home, things are going to be no different. And when you get married and have kids, things will STILL be no different. It's you. You are unhappy and looking for other people and situations to make you happy. It doesn't work that way. Only YOU can make yourself happy. The bf, job, home, kids...they cannot do it for you. You need to do some volunteer work. Do something for someone who REALLY needs help. Then you'll be grateful for what you have and stop wishing for things you don't have.
2007-03-08 05:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you can pinpoint a cause is a good sign that you are just home sick. If you feel like it is more than that and you are just grasping for a cause, you should see a professional . Start with your primary care physician. They can point you in the right direction. Seeking help is better than riding it out and hoping things will get better on their own. It seems like knowing that you are moving back soon would cause you to be excited and your depression wouldn't be an issue.
2007-03-08 06:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by krysmaslily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 21:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had times like those. It may be something more than just a sad mood. I would go see a doctor about it. He may be able to prescribe an anti depressant to you or something of the sort. I hope you get to feeling better.
2007-03-08 05:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by TeddyGram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going through a normal reaction from being away from home =dont let this upset you as you say you are going back=you and your b/f sound like good people and things should go well for you=dont get down on yourself=you sound like a very nice person
2007-03-08 05:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by caffsans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get a psychiatrist or just try some OTC meds that can really help
hahah
2007-03-08 05:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your boyfriend and go on cruise.
Take vacation my friend!!!!!
2007-03-08 05:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by ineedhelporadvice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋