Should I go to the Marines?

Question

I am a 19 years old female, it has always been my dream to go in to the military and I have decided to go it to the U.S Marines. I do have a 10 month old baby boy who I Iove more then anything and I am a single mother. (while in bootcamp my son would stay with my mother) I don't know if by me going in to the Marines would hurt my child in any way. HELP

Answer 1

Okay, take a moment to write everything down. On your paper, write pros on one side then write cons on the other.
Now on the pros write down what you see to be the positives of joining the Marines. Now on the cons write down this one first- not being there when my son takes his first step, next write- not being there when he says his first words, then go from there.

I'm not going to tell you what decision to make- just know that whatever decision you make you will have to live with that decision (or die with it) the rest of your life. Serving in the military is honorable, it also comes with much MORE responsibility than raising a son to become a good citizen of your country. You will be responsible to many and for many people.

Have you spoken to your baby's father? That needs to be considered too. What will happen to baby if you die? Will he get custody of the baby? Does he even know that he fathered the baby? Think this through.

Think about it. Pray about it. Talk with your mother about it.
After you have spent considerable time on it, then make an informed decision.

Answer 2

First of all you do realize that the marines get called on first. I mean i wouldn't want to be shipped first and end up dying for my country. If i was you i would consider how this would affect your family, they would be worried about you each day, and fear getting a letter announcing your death. Your child would need a motherly figure in their life, and by going your mother might loose a daughter and your child would loose the opportunity to experience a connection between a mother and her child.

Answer 3

Im in the military "U.S. Army", what you ask requires a hell of a sacrifice, you should talk to as many people as you can that have served in the marines and get their take on military life. Ask them to be open and honest. It is not easy especially in these times. You will be deployed and you will miss your family and friends. There are pros and cons to it of course. You get true world experience, something that a book can't tell you or sitting behind some cash register will never give you. There will be times when you love it because it is new and different and then there will be times you regreted signing your name on the dotted line. You should really get as much information as you can. Dont just take the word of recruiters, its their job to sell you the military.

Answer 4

Of course it would hurt your child. You are going to be absent during the most important formative years of the kids life. You don't know where you are going to be assigned, or what you are going to be doing. You may be in Iraq. Are you going to send for the child, and have him live in a war zone? What it boils down to is, do you want to be a Marine bad enough at the expense of short changing your child? This are harsh words, but once you put your name on the dotted line, you are committed for at least 2 years.There is no backing out. Think long and hard, before you do anything.

Answer 5

AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I was in the Marines in 76-77 and I met several WMs (women Marines). I admire a woman that knows what she wants and can prove it and the Marines is one branch to be proud of. Your child might miss you while you're in boot camp but just think of how it's going to be once you get home from boot camp. Everyone misses people when they go in, even me but it's all for the better. You'll have the best time running your butt off and getting fit. Just remember, what ever you're told to do, do it as fast as you possibly can and you'll do well.


SEMPER FI

Answer 6

As young as your son is he will grow up with his mom in and out of his life. You also should consider that you will miss, first words, first steps, etc. I think it's awesome that you would like to defend your country, but i have a 12 month old daughter and i would hate to miss out on her life.

Answer 7

You most likely wont see your son for a good peice of time while you're serving your committment. You most likely willl go overseas and possibly Iraq, and you cant take your baby with you. Its a great opportunity, but with your son, you may want to consider it further.

Answer 8

NO.dont do it. U wont see ur child. apply for grants, loans, finacial add for school. Being that your a young mother you can get so much money for going to college, you dont even realise. you can get an education ( and NOT leave your son) go to a local state school and you'll be able to get a good job to support him. how much would it Stink for your child to loose his mother in Iraq~!

Answer 9

I know one thing for sure..When he grows up he will say with huge pride, my mom is a guardian of our country!!! Any Service to our Country is so self-full filling you can only understand unless you do it!!!!! I served proudly and wish I still could

Answer 10

The military for a single parent is not the place to be. Time gone during training and deployments will make your life very difficult. My advice is to not join..............