Me and my dad don't get along very well and I am moving out in June! Well I have always said I was going yell at him like he does me and leave, but I also think that may be too much and payback should be silent.
Which would you do!!!!!!!
2007-03-08 05:13:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know in life you can change alot of relationships,but in your life you only get one mom and one dad,and even though he hells at you,I'm sure he loves you. As you get older you will realize that you won't think about "so called paybacks " when it comes to parents,you will just want to be good to them and let them loive you however it is they show it.Be good to your dad.Leave quietly.
2007-03-08 05:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by happyfingers1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words leave wounds. Don't tell him off, even though he has this sad history of yelling and leaving. It's a fight and flight syndrome common to many men. If you are leaving, obviously to be on your own, why is the "paycheck" a consideration. You'll never gain his full respect by remaining financially depentent. This will only empower him to continue to yell and be controlling. Whatever your reasons for leaving, do the right thing and make a clean, graceful exit. If necessary, leave him a thoughtful note. Then he'll have time to read and consider it. Thank him for the good stuff and there has to be some good you'll take with you.Leave the door open for a new adult/parent relationship to evolve. Honor thy parents.....regardless.
2007-03-08 05:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be reasons why you two do not get along. Usually when people yell at each other their either hurt about something and can't talk about whats really wrong or they don't know how. Could he be angry that your leaving home???? There's only one way to find out . If he won't tell you when your leaving, give him a little time. He cool off and just may approach you about it.
2007-03-08 05:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Annabelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out quietly. People that yell and scream arent a.ffected by the same treatment because its a normal way to act to them.You'll end up more upset than he will. Start out in your new life on a good note and by happy your well away from your dad. Its your time now to live a normal stress free life
2007-03-08 05:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before giving my opinion, there is an important factor that you have not disclosed... Do you love your father?... I don't mean any disrespect if you do, but the thing is sometimes people can forget they do. If you want him to give you away at your wedding, or be there to give $2 to his grandchild, you may want to keep things civil. As the others have stated, once you "burn that bridge" it is almost impossible to rebuild it in your father's lifetime... But if you find that you really hate the guy and that there is no love in your relationship, then let your anger be the last thing he hears or remembers of you... Best of luck!
2007-03-08 05:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by ragefury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should leave peacefully. Find some time to deal with the emotions related to your father and then later come back and confront your father in a positive soul-cleansing way.
2007-03-08 08:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by YJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your father know exactly how you feel. By telling him why you are leaving he will have a chance to explore why he acts the way he does. Who knows when you come back to visit you may come back to a changed man
2007-03-08 05:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by bikerman2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with "common s", dont burn any bridges. when i moved out of my fathers house, we didnt speak for 3 years. once we started speaking again, it took about 6 years to get a normal "father - daughter relationship" back. we get along great now.
2007-03-08 05:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by sugarmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE DAD. AND BY TREATING HIM LIKE HE DOES YOU. JUST KNOW THAT HE LOVES YOU AND MAYBE BY HIM YELLING IS THE ONLY WAY HE KNOWS HOW TO SHOW IT. AND THINK ABOUT THIS FOR ME. HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT THAT'S WHAT HIS FATHER DID TO HIM, MAYBE THAT ALL HE KNOWS IS TO YELL. PARENTS WHO DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THEIR KIDS TEND TO LEARN FROM THEIR OWN PARENTS. I SHOULD KNOW I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM WITH MY FATHER AND HE HAD A DRINKING PROBLEM. BUT I KNOW THAT WE ARE CLOSE. SO MOVE OUT BUT STILL INCLUDE HIM IN YOUR LIFE BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE
2007-03-08 05:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by marycatherinesylvester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a mature person...........Point blank tell him that you are leaving because of your differences. Don't be a irrate inmature person and yell........and don't do the silent thing either....both show inmaturity.
2007-03-08 05:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋