Should I be offended?? Or am I just making a big deal out of nothing?

Question

Ok I am in History class and I ask this girl who is kinda my friend for a piece of paper. She has this big stack of notebook paper in her binder. So she gives me this piece of paper that has the holes ripped out of it and has her writing on like 1/5 of it already!! She was like "oh just cross that out". Then I turn around to the guy behind me who I talk to a lot and asked him and he flat out replied "no". Then he had the nerve to ask me to copy my homework at the end of class?? Am I overreacting?Or should I be offended?

Please do not tell me to grow up or anything. Thanks.

Answer 1

Ok, first off some of the responders are COMPLETE morons. The question is NOT should you or should you not have your own supplies. We can assume you are a mature individual and you usually bring your own supplies to school, but through a natural and understandable mistake you ran out of paper without noticing. We all do things like that; anyone telling you to bring your own supplies is dumber than a bag of retarded rocks.

Second, should you be offended: For the girl, no; for the guy, absolutely. The reason is that for the girl, you really didn't stipulate that you wanted a clean, pristine sheet of paper. It would have been thoughtful and proactive of her to give you a new sheet, but you didn't ask for one. So she's kind of dumb, but you can't get offended because you didn’t specifically define what it was you really wanted.

The guy was just an asss. If he had extra paper, he didn't want to be put out. He simply didn't want to be bothered. Maybe the $0.05 cost of the sheet was more than he thought you were worth. Maybe he decided you weren't going to sleep with him so why put forth the effort. It's possible you have, in the past and inadvertently, slighted him; and he has some unjustified dislike for you. However, then he asks you for your homework. Seems to be he couldn't be bothered to help you, but when he needed help he completely forgot how he treated you. And if he didn’t have any extra paper, he was blatantly rude in responding to you.

So the appropriate answer to the girl would be "thanks"; and the appropriate answer to the guy would be "f*ck off".

Answer 2

I'm going to step out on a limb and give you a different answer than what most have said. You asked and the response was no. Why should you be offended? Because you did not get what YOU wanted? It would have been nice if the girl gave you a clean sheet of paper just because I would never give a friend something used. But if that was all she had and you really needed paper, then you should have been grateful to even get that. You were the one in need and it was not her job to supply you with what you should have brought to class yourself. And as for the guy, you asked, he said no. Doesn't he have the right to say no?

Answer 3

The only reason I would say "no" to someone would be because I had already been asked by other students all day to borrow stuff or ....it gets old after a while.

I really don't think you are over reacting. Your friend should have given you a full sheet of paper and not a used one and the young man should have explained why he said no.

Bottom line is that you need to come to class prepared. And by no means give copies of your homework to other students...would you like it that someone got an A in class because of your hard work and you didn't?

I have had some instructors who actually took points off and lowered grades because students borrowed supplies....believe me, they started bringing their own after that.

Answer 4

Yeah, you're overreacting just a little about the paper situation, but that guy was pretty nervy if he refused to even let you have a piece of paper and then expected to copy your homework.

And, as I teacher, I'd say pony up the .75 and buy yourself a pack of paper.

Answer 5

If this was a one-time thing, I'd say they're pretty rude. Are you by any chance in the habit of asking for paper and other supplies? I'd probably do something like this to a habitual borrower, either say 'no' straight out or give them something crappy if they didn't get the hint... take a good look at your own habits and actions... then if you usually *do* take your own stuff and only forgot this once then yes they were very rude and inconsiderate not to help you out.

Answer 6

Yes! You should be? But the question is: Will you? I would be offended but then I am 71 years old!

I am just an old fart that has lived too long and should be out to pasture. I hope you all have the same opportunity to reach my age and way beyond as I have.

I have license to be offended even knowing it is out of ignorance that they react. They do not respond in a friendly way due partly to the lifestyle that we have today.

There is little respect for anyone and anybody anymore...but I'm not here to preach to you...

Change your seat and/or change your friends and by all means get your own stuff.

I'm inclined to believe that there is more to this than you admit to.

Answer 7

You should be offended. It could be that they're really snobby, or you picked an inappropriate time to ask the question, or that you're pissing them off in some way. Do you often come unprepared and ask them for stuff? They could be getting tired of that. Maybe check how much and when you're talking during class - it could be at inappropriate times and they could be lashing out b/c of that.
Now, it is likely that they're just a couple of snobs who don't deserve your time.
I hope you didn't let him copy the homework.

Answer 8

I would be offended by my friend but if she is really your friend you should probably let it go. She might of had a rough day or something and a friendship is worth more then a piece of paper. But to the guy hell no. Since he wants to be stingy with his paper he had enough to take his own damn notes.

Answer 9

You may be overreacting. if the paper was for notes or something who cares if it has writing on it. Maybe the guy behind you didnt have any paper either. Get all the facts before you overreact.

Answer 10

I would be annoyed but it's not a huge deal to lose sleep over. What I suggest you do is not be so open to these people any more. That means if they need something then do not give it to them and definitely do not let some jerk copy your homework. Find better friends and be better prepared for class.