The problem is I attract all the young guys I mean young. What can I do to change this. I want to attract men my age.
2007-03-08 05:10:58 · 38 answers · asked by memyslf&I 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust me you are attracting men your age. they are just scared. I was carded at 35. be proud woman!!!!! you may have to approach the older men yourself. And just throw in a kids today. or if they only knew how old I am. the older guys will get it.
2007-03-08 05:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am no expert and I have never met you, but maybe you could try to dress a little more conservatively, perhaps you are dressing like a younger woman which adds to the appeal. You may also want to change your make-up to be a little more Conservative. I am not saying there is anything wrong with looking as beautiful as you can, but if you give the image of a younger woman in conjunction with your young face, you are going to draw the young men. Good Luck.
2007-03-08 05:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older women are finding what men have known all along: Dating someone younger is fun.
Why the trend?
1.
The man-shortage of several years ago has reversed, and there is now a woman shortage.
2.
The "older women" of today are not your grandma's grandmas.
3.
Celebs like Melanie Griffith, Demi Moore and Cameron Diaz have made dating younger men a status symbol for older women.
You didn't mention your age or his, but based on your letter, I'm guesstimating that you are in your forties and he's in his twenties. I'm not exactly sure why your friend is so up in arms. Is she jealous? Is she concerned that you might get hurt, or that the two of you have different agendas? Is she balking at the fact that this guy and one of her kids might have attended high school together?
Okay, we have a couple of issues on the table here. First, how do you get your friends and his family to accept the relationship? The answer? You don't. They will either accept it or they won't, but it's not possible for you to change their minds, so don't even waste the energy. Be honorable in the relationship and respectful to the people who love you, but live your own life.
Tell your friend you appreciate her concern, but as long as the relationship is working for the two of you, you're not soliciting any outside votes. As far as his parents go, they're probably just looking out for his best interests, and when fantasizing about what his life would be like, never imagined that their potential future daughter-in-law might be closer to their age than his. They might be concerned that he'll settle down too quickly (since time is a factor if you were planning to say, have kids) and that he might shortchange himself, education, experience and career-wise to take on the responsibilities of a relationship with someone older. That said, you must respect his parents concern and their feelings, but the two of you are consenting adults, and you need to live your lives based on what you want to do, not what other people think you should do.
Second, normally, I'd be concerned about why you're not attracted to men your own age - frequently people who only date younger men or women want to control the relationship, and don't feel like they can hold their own with a peer. However, since you were married twice to men your own age, my guess is that you've had enough of big, serious, committed relationships, and you're just interested in keeping things light for now. There's nothing wrong with that.
Enjoy the relationship, and make sure you're honest with yourself and him about what you want, and why you're in the relationship in the first place.
Remember that what's on your driver's license doesn't matter nearly as much as what's in your heart.
2007-03-08 05:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by superguyrye 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im 41 and attract very young men as well. Its almost scary. Because the older guys take me for a joke they dont beleive Im closer to their age. They also dont know how to deal with me because I have old common sence and wit and cant be suckered so they dont know what to do with me. Yet I look great and I have great genes. Keep searching!
2007-03-08 05:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by tressroy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing to attract anyone, let alone younger men.
Just stop going out with them and only date men your age. Yes it's fun, but it's also your choice.
It's a nice problem to have.
2007-03-08 09:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean. I'm a young looking 45 and I get more looks from really young men than men my age. Honestly, I find it quite flattering.
2007-03-08 05:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by Annabelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dress more like a 35 year old and not like a teeny bopper. Also, surround yourself in clubs or classes with men more in your age group. If all else fails teach those young bucks a thing or two, it could be fun. I sure would if I were you.
2007-03-08 05:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are very lucky you look young but try not to go to nightclubs where young men hang around try and get involved in your local area by join a book club or take up some sport or other clubs you may want to join. you not only meet people of your own age but you will increase your social network of friends
2007-03-08 05:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Elvis 109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day will eventually come when u will reverse that question... Older men absolutely LOVE young looking or young women..... Trust me on that, your just looking in the wrong places.. Sometimes when u stop searching for something, u might find it easier.....
2007-03-08 05:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by Point 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try dressing more your age. If you dress young you attract the wrong kind of guys.
2007-03-08 05:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by kjh06_07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋