He does fine when a teacher is in the room, but as soon as she leaves for a moment, he hits other kids if they have a toy he wants or if they say something mean to him. What can I do about this?
2007-03-08 05:09:58 · 12 answers · asked by Red 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He is the oldest of 3 boys, and I discipline him in every way I know how. I've tried everything from spanking to talking it out, to rewarding good behavior. I've explained consequences and even tried showing him how he'll miss out on a lot of fun things if he acts this way.
2007-03-08 06:04:51 · update #1
What is the teacher doing about this behaviour? It won't really have an effect on him if you punish him hours after the hitting incident (e.g he hits in the morning and you pick him up at 5:00pm and then punish him at home). He needs immediate consequences for his behaviour. Make an appointment with the teacher. Ask what they are doing and if they have suggections. Find out if there is a particular time when he acts like this (e.g., is he hungry? tired? etc.) You're not looking for excuses for the behaviour...but sometimes you can figure out the triggers and go from there. Don't feel too badly, I deal with 5 year olds everyday, and there is rarely a day that goes by when I don;t have to address "hitting" between the kids.
2007-03-08 10:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by melissa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have all sorts of ideas, but with the information given, maybe you could do this:
Son, how do you feel when someone hits you? You don't like it, do you? etc.
Then draw up a "contract" with a sticker chart. If he goes the entire day without hitting someone (you'll find out from his teachers, right?), then he gets a sticker. At the end of the week, he can get a reward. Some moms keep a jar of slips of paper that their kids can draw from with all sorts of ideas (storytime at the library, McDonalds, go to park, etc.). There is a great book, Parenting Pre-schoolers with Love and Logic. I included the web site. It is available at most bookstores.
2007-03-08 13:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try immediate time outs or quiet time. The teacher might be able to have an extra person for a day or two so make sure you are on top of it.
I had a nephew that was hitting. I watched him like a hawk and as soon as he hit he was immediately in time out. After just a few times he was done.
2007-03-08 13:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rocka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to ask and see if other kids are doing something to him to provoke this. Also, is he an only child? I had a little bit of trouble with my son last year (at age 5) like this cause he wanted something that someone else had and so he would try to take it or hit them if he didn't get his way. I think its because he doesn't have anyone his age or smaller that he has to share with at home. So, at school he thinks things should be the same.
2007-03-08 13:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I went through all the emotions for this kind of behavior. We punished, spank, talked, talked, talked, took away privilages, rewarded him for good acts, talked to him, and finally a trip to the vice principal's office finally got through to him.
What I am saying is that I don't know what you can do with your child, because they are all different. I do know that you have to say it until you are blue in the face, that you will not put up with this behavior. Eventually you will get to him!
2007-03-08 13:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The teacher may not be giving the proper discipline. When this happens, your child needs to go immediately to time out and have his toys removed. Do that for about a week or so, and I can almost guarantee it will stop.
2007-03-08 13:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by isisrocca82 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would ask where he learned it was okay to hit someone who 1) had something he wanted or 2) said something "mean" to him. They are probably saying things to him because he hits. Put him in time out, take away privledges.
2007-03-08 13:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by professorc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its time you take command.Stop being a friend and be a parent.Take privileges away from him and tell him if he doesn't things will disappear.Also that this behavior will not be tolerated,it starts today .DO IT.
2007-03-08 13:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by thresher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to teach this kid a lesson a 5 year old should not be hitting other kids at school...punish him when he does this.
2007-03-08 13:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by mullarkey013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this but you need to punish the kid because if you dont he'll turn out bad and grow up and act like he is the seed of chucky so disipine him
2007-03-08 13:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by octashiathamoneymaker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋