I am 16. My sisters are 13 & 14. When I was their age, I wasn’t allowed to go to school activities because my parents were overprotective. Now my sisters are because they aren’t my parent’s firstborn. My parents only worry about the firstborn and I am. My cousin is 12. When I was 12, I wasn’t allowed to be in chat rooms. My cousin wasn’t allowed to go to chat rooms and after my parents told her parents don’t worry and that when I was 12, nothing happened to me when I was on the computer, she is allowed to now. Now I am not allowed to date, go to parties, movies, or friends house. I told them to tell my parents to give me the freedom and they refuse even when they got freedom because of me. It is SO UNFAIR. Last week I told my parents I want to dorm in college. I said I don’t want to be around unfair people who take benefits from me and not return it. My parents yelled at me, slapped me hard, took away my cell and said I will not get it back. I cried 24/7.
2007-03-08 05:09:27 · 9 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are learning one of the most valuable lessons in life. That is that life is never fair. Might as well get used to it now because it will stay that way your entire life.
As to your question why cant your parents understand how you feel? It is because they are so wrapped up in how they feel.
2007-03-08 05:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16 so this all seems unfair but your parents only want the very best for you. I'm sure your parents know how you feel but they are going to do what they think is right--even if they end up being wrong. When you are 18 and able to move out and not depend on your parents you'll be able to have things the way you want them, but while you are in your parents house just go with the flow.
2007-03-08 05:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure your parents understand how you feel. they WERE young once ya know! Its hard for parents because kids dont come with a manual and they are just trying to do the best thing for you. You prob dont understand where they are coming from because you are young still and want to be free and do whatever you want. You will see in a few years that they are trying to look out for you. I understand, my parents were a bit protective, but you need to u nderstand you will get over it and you will be a better person because of it! And you should try talking to your parents instead of yelling at them and maybe you can understand them a bit better
2007-03-08 05:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see your point, your 16 you have a cell phone. so your parents can't be all that bad. it might seem like it at times. your the first born your right you pave the way for the others. im the baby of my family, don't think i could do know wrong. i was always doing wrong.i could do nothing right! still to this day i can do nothing right. i just try to let it go, as much as possible, and tell myself over and over life is never fair. know one said life would ever be fair. and doesn't that suck?
2007-03-08 05:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive your parents just want to protect you. Maybe they go oberboard, but they just want your best.
You should respect your parents, but frankly, slapping you was completely wrong and unfair. This is not the right way to get respect. Also, I see no reason for them to be so harsh and take your cell phone away. Maybe for one day, if you were disrespectful. But no reason to be so harsh, they should show love too. In my opinio, such actions just cause resentment
Anyway, I suggest you calm down, apologize, tell them you didnt mean to be disrespectful. I think they will come around and give you back your cell phone.
2007-03-08 05:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Steiner 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ever heard of the word respect? You seem to forget who is the child and who is the adult. You should respect your parents, even if you don't agree with them. Respect and maturity might get you some of those freedoms you are seeking. Believe me, your parents are only watching out for your best intrest!
2007-03-08 05:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the longest time my mum and dad does no longer allow me bypass to a college the position you would possibly want to live to tell the tale campus. that is for smarter youngsters and that i merely couldn't understand why they could take that danger faraway from me. i ultimately bugged them adequate that they gave in after a huge wrestle. i'm employing quickly. Haha.
2016-10-17 11:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful that your parents love you enough!! my parents were the same with me, and i turned out pretty good!
2007-03-08 05:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is some advice that you can use:
2007-03-08 05:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Erik W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋