What are three things your parents taught you that you would not or will not teach your children? Explain...?

Question

Now that I have my own 3 month old daughter, I reflect back on my childhood and remember some of my parents life lessons that now as an adult I wouldn't pass down to my child. What are some of yours?

Answer 1

My parents taught me to be afraid of the dark....even suggested the "boogie man" would get me. I'd never instill this kind of fear in my own child. I wanted her to know that the very angels watched over her while she slept and we glued glow-in- the - dark stars on her ceiling!

My parents were oblivious to the need for a good education, perhaps because they didn't have degrees themselves and had settled for a working class life. They never really praised my excellent grades, but it was enough to have my teachers' approval. I, on the other hand, commended my child's best efforts, even when she didn't get all A's...just wanted her to work hard and do her best.

My mother taught us to be tooooo cautious. Don't go into the water past your ankles, hold on with both hands, etc. Of course I wanted to keep my daughter sheltered safely under my "umbrella." but I knew when it was time to let her step out in a cool shower, take some risks, and she grew up to be fearless, whole, and ready to try anything.

Answer 2

My mom and dad fought all of the time when I was growing up. They were always yelling and screaming, and I hated it. My mom re-married a few times and never seemed to be happy. I grew up believing that men were the enemy. I really believed that men weren't able to love and that I should never love or trust one. Though this was not something that was literally "taught" to me, that is what an impressionable little girl picked up from her parent's rantings. I was never beaten or abused in any way. I had everything I needed and most of what I wanted, but now is when I lack. I am happily married with a beautiful daughter. I am happy now, but it has taken me years to get to this point. It took me so long to learn to trust and love my husband. I now am not so worried about what life lessons to teach her, she will live and learn. I just want her to love and trust with all of her heart. I want her to see that her parents love eachother, in turn teaching her to love. I want her to trust and to know that she will probably get hurt, but in the end it will all be worth it.

Answer 3

To be honest I don't have kids as of yet. But I know that my parents taught me alot of things and today I am greatful for how they have raised me. The only thing I would do different is to teach them some of the things that I have learned on my own..about sex, drugs etc. Know what I mean?

Answer 4

My father drank all the time and was very mean. My mother always covered up for him. I never will cover up for my husband and my daughter knows that. My parents were always very trusting people with having work done around their home. They never really got more than one estimate for a job. Always took the first one who came along.Many times they got screwed. I do not trust to many people with our money and my daughter trusts nobody with hers. When it came to their health they never questioned their doctors. And that is soooooooo wrong. They were always afraid if they didn't go along with what the doctor said that he or she would refuse to care for them. I don't look at a doctor as god, like alot of older people do. I in fact have had a few run ins with my parents doctors over their care. No the doctors don't like being questioned but to bad. They are working for us, their not doing their job for free.

Answer 5

That you shouldn't marry more than once. I think that's ridiculous. Because a person can end up in a bad, abusive, marriage and get a divorced. So why not be able to marry again if you so choose. That is one thing I am not passing on to my children. I love your question now it's making me really think! Best wishes for you and your baby!

Answer 6

1 st my parents taught me to treat others the way I would want to be treated..I think this is the clue for a happy life 2 nd my parents taught me money is what life is..I honestly don't think that is true..yes money is nice but you don't have to work your life away..time with your children is sooooo important...3 rd my mom always judging other people..even though she taught me alot of good she did this and honestly I don't even think she realized she was doing it..I wont let my children dis -criminate against others weither the color ,poor or rich..or clean or not...I belive people all people are human and they are what they are if you don't approve of them then walk away don't judge them because next they or someone will judge you..I belive the motto what goes around comes around...so treat people the way you want to be treated always...

Answer 7

The one thing that comes IMMEDIATELY to mind is that my parents taught me what racism was. I still believe that we're all the same on the inside, so the outside shouldn't matter. But my folks were from a different generation AND the south, so.....

I have striven to teach my son that race does NOT matter. Its a person's character that defines his worth.

Answer 8

Awesome Question! My rents taught me to turn the other cheek. I disagree with that. Sometimes a confortation is just what is needed. i am trying to teach mine to stand up for themselves!

Answer 9

Finish food on your plate.
Talk to that nice old man down the street. Give him a hug he is harmless. (not all nice old men are so nice)
If you misbehave I will spank you with the wooden spoon.
I will not teach or do this to my children.

Answer 10

I will never answer to my children with the following sentences: 1) Because I said so! 2) When you'll be older, you will know why! 3) This is my house and if you don't like it, you are welcome to move out!

Get it??