My son is 18 months old and although we've always done the "No, don't touch" and remove him from the situation thing, I am wondering when we should start using the "naughty chair" approach. When he's tottally out of controll (not very often) I have put him in his room and shut the door, but he can open his door, so it's not long before he comes out.
2007-03-08 04:52:47 · 20 answers · asked by Honestly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My Son if 14 months old and I started disciplining from the time he was walking and getting into things. His time out is in his playpen with nothing. Believe it or not they are smarter than we think. He knows what he can touch and what he can't touch. Any time he touches something he gets a count of 3 or a " Do you want to get in your pen?" Believe it or not...IT WORKS! he plays with his toys and cleans them up and he just listens...so start as early as you see fit. People are going to say I'm crazy, he's only 14 months old and he gets time outs...well yea, and he also listens to me now when I say no...he removes himself from the situation.
GOOD LUCK and follow your intuition about this because you are probably right.
2007-03-08 04:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole C 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
We started the "naughty chair" at 15 months. We use the playpen since she won't sit on a chair, but same concept. I give her one opportunity to correct the behavior, if she doesnt then she goes to the naughty chair for one minute, and I set the timer so she knows when it beeps its over. It works pretty well for us - the first month we did it a lot (about 5 times a day) and she cried for the whole minute each time, now its about twice a week, and she just stands there and waits for the timer to beep.
2007-03-08 05:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babies and toddlers are naturally curious. So it's wise to eliminate temptations and no-nos — items such as VCRs, stereos, jewelry, and especially cleaning supplies and medications should be kept well out of reach. When your crawling baby or roving toddler heads toward an unacceptable or dangerous play object, calmly say "No" and either remove your child from the area or distract him or her with an appropriate activity.
Timeouts can be effective discipline for toddlers. A child who has been hitting, biting, or throwing food, for example, should be told why that behavior is unacceptable and taken to a designated timeout area — a kitchen chair or bottom stair — for a minute or two to calm down (longer timeouts are not effective for toddlers).
It's important to not spank, hit, or slap a child of any age. Babies and toddlers are especially unlikely to be able to make any connection between their behavior and physical punishment. They will only feel the pain of the hit.
And don't forget that kids learn by watching adults, particularly their parents. Make sure your behavior is role-model material. You'll make a much stronger impression by putting your own belongings away rather than just issuing orders to your child to pick up toys while your stuff is left strewn around.
2007-03-08 05:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by sprincess692003 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Once a child's mind is capable of understanding that they are doing wrong, it's your responsibility to correct them. If your telling him not to touch doesn't work, then it's time to use your naughty chair approach. By allowing him to continue doing as he pleases, you are teaching him that he doesn't have to follow your rules and that there are no consequences for being disobedient. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to get him under control.
2007-03-08 06:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we start the disciplining the moment we tell our chilren "NO!" I mean we try so hard not to use words like that but it's very hard not too.
Starting the time out thing at about 2.5 years old. But it's gonna be difficult. Taking away toys. But getting down to there level and talking to them face to face, eye to eye..seems to be best for now. I remember taking a "parenting" program when my son was 3 and I learned new techniques...like getting down to his level and talking to him face to face...not yelling at him but talking normally I got a better response from him. Sure I still use time outs (he's 6 now), I count ONLY to 2 now and he's off and running.
I have to upmost respect for my 6 year old as my 6 year old has for me. It's nice having your child on that same level of respect. He's a happy, intelligent, smart, senitive little man!
Good Luck!
Supernanny Jo Frost is a BIG help too!!! The television is a GREAT tool for not only pleassure but educational too!
2007-03-08 05:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by α∂νєηтυяє ιѕ нєяє 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
18 months is plenty old to put some disciplinary actions in place. If you're using time out or a "naughty chair" as you said, the going rule is one minute for every year of age....so about a minute and a half for your son.
2007-03-08 04:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is important to initiate coaching your toddler what's appropriate and what isn't as quickly as obtainable. of course there'll be some issues that she would be waiting to not understand, yet 'discipline' at that age is purely asserting 'No!', 'warm!', 'risky!', 'Yucky!', etc. and then redirecting her interest someplace else. yet what do you advise by using indications of her being annoying and impatient? a number of that could desire to basically be her character, or it somewhat is a ingredient she's dealing with, or a sprint separation stress which reasons her to act out. With an 8 month previous there is purely no telling. My son replaced into very impatient at that age, yet i think of his replaced into purely being bored and wanting to discover yet not having any potential of doing so or the aptitude.
2016-10-17 21:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isolation is a good way to discipline, but you must remember that an 18-month-old doesn't have much of an attention span. He should be left in isolation only for a minute or so. If he leaves before that, gently put him back, but don't engage him. When you take him out of "time out", get down on his level and explain why he had to go there. He's very young, so you must tie the time out to the behavior so he clearly understands. Then give him a hug.
2007-03-08 04:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Terri J 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, I say it is good to start that around your babies age. The baby understands more now, and just leaving him on a chair for 1 minute will not hurt him. Don't go into a big lecture to him on why is in the chair, just say no , right after the situation happend and immediatly place him in the chair. He is to young for a reason why yet. If he gets up, just say no and put him back in the chair. IT will be frustrating at first, but he will soon undertand that it is a punishment. As he gets older, you can give him the moral reason why he is in the chair. ! minute for every yr of age.
2007-03-08 04:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by whatever 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think the experts usually say naughty chairs are useful around age 2 1/2. once they understand that they have been naughty and what a punishment is. when having a tantrum at the moment, put him in a safe place (eg your hall) and let him scream. walk away but monitor from a safe distance so you know he wont hurt himself
2007-03-08 05:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Little C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋