Just wanting to know prospectives :)
I am currently 16 and have fallen i love with a 19 year old. We want to get married when i turn 18. We truley love each other and we are both still virgins waiting untill we are married to be with each other. We have also talked seriously about future life and how we will change and become a little diffirent than we are now and we are both willing to face that. My Guy is financially stable and we are both going to attend the same online college courses. We cannot wait till we are married and toghether he is so good to me so what do you guys think.
He says he would be happy if we could just lay toghether forever. And look into each others eyes.
2007-03-08 04:49:38 · 7 answers · asked by Alli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like i said perspective iff your going to be rude dont answer!!
2007-03-08 04:54:41 · update #1
i say congratulations to you and have a wonderful life, i wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-08 04:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, two thoughts:
First, I know it is a beautiful feeling you have right now...been there. Ultimately, though, the chemical attraction and the romantic notion of love will wear off and reality will hit. A lot of hard decisions will have to be made. True love will no longer be an emotion, but you both will have the option of making it a deliberate choice. He will, moreso than you, because men's minds are wired differently. This romantic stage will wear off within about 1-2 years.
Secondly, at 16, you have a lot of growing, maturing and social development to go through that he has already been through. You will change A LOT by the time you are 18 and will have many social and life experiences that will contribute to making you the adult you will be. At your age, 3 years is a big difference. If you were 18 and 21 or 20 and 23, then, 3 years would not be that big of a difference because the experience and maturity factors wouldn't be that far apart.
Personally, having 3 daughters, I wouldn't recommend that any of them have exclusive relationships serious enough to talk about marriage at age 16 because there are too many things they don't yet know about the world and too many valuable social experiences they haven't yet had.
On the other hand, I sincerely admire both of your commitments to remain virgins until marriage. I trust that is based on personal values bigger than yourselves and not just a romantic commitment to each other.
2007-03-08 05:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you truly believe that you are in love, but you are so young! I'm thinking that you should wait to marry him. Don't plan on a wedding at the young age of 18. Keep your relationship with him, but get some life experience before you dive into a serious marriage head first.
Please trust me.....I got married to a guy I thought I truly loved at 18. Then I got divorced a year later. I was too much at the time for us, we didn't even really know who we were as individuals but we were trying to make a marriage work. I am now 28 and if I could do it all over again I would have waited.
Good luck.
2007-03-08 04:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say congratulations to you, that is if you all are successful. Many times marriage seems easy when we are 16 because we are in love, however you will not need to know what other people think because the truth is in the putting. Take things a day at a time, and know that in marriage there are going to be problems, and eventually one of you is going to wonder what you have missed out on. Take your time, but do enjoy your lives together. My question is before you all can lay together and look into each others eyes forever, where are you going to live, what are your decisions about children, both of you are going to school so who is going to work, or are both of you going to work {will your job pay you enough to be able to manage your household}, what happens if one of you can't find a job in the allotted time that you all discussed. etc....... I could go on and on...I am happily married, I am 22 and have been for 1 1/2 years, but it's hard.
2007-03-08 04:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWW thats so sweet.He sounds like a great guy.I met my sweetheart when I was 15 n he was 17 n now Im 17 and he's 19 and we fell in love and still til this day in love.we've been through our ups n downs but thats how life is.He wanna get married when I turn 18 and I will say YES cuz I c my future with him.Just see how things work out between the two of you n if thats what your heart wants than go 4 it.
2007-03-08 05:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by jazluvyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is beautiful and amazing!!! Hold on to that wonderful feeling of love and happiness. I'm so glad that people are still in love all over the world. Love on sweetie. I'm glad for you and hope you are happy forever.
2007-03-08 04:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by lbacig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this supposed to be a question, or yuou just telling everyone how deeply in love you are??
2007-03-08 04:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋