Mom,its my life?

Question

I m 17 but my mother thinks that i am still 5.
She nags me a everything telling me what to do and what not.
tells me what to wear or not. Shouts at me when i go for a fancy haircut. doesnt lets me make my own decision.
this is driving me crazy.
can anyone tell me how to make my mom know that i am grown up now.without any anger
Serious answers plzzzz

Answer 1

Sit her down at a time when she isnt in her nagging mood and explain to her that in less than a year you will be old enough to vote, to leave home, to fight for your country if you wanted to, to get a job and move out. Tell her youre a man now and her time to order you around as if you were a baby is over.
Tell her she does have the right til your 18 to follow the rules of the house and to make sure you dont do dumb things like take drugs or treat her with disrespect but that in personal things like who you date, how you cut your hair that it is your choice now.

I dont know what kind of son you are to her, but if you are the kind who appreciates the things she does for you, like cooking meals and doing your laundry, etc, and you arent lazy and you do your share of the chores then you do have a right to tell her to back off a little. However if you just sit around acting irresponsible then I can see why she is a nag. So before you talk to her think about the kind of son you are and figure out what you really do deserve. If its to be treated with respect make sure you are treating her that way also.

Answer 2

If you want accurate advice, you have to give details, which you didn’t do.

“She nags me a everything telling me what to do and what not”
What is it you’re wanting to do that she’s nagging you about? For example: Is it that you’re wanting to play computer games all night instead of studying for the test you have the next day? Is it that she wants you to clean your room, which hasn’t been cleaned in 6 months and should be labeled “hazardous”? What EXACTLY is it?

“Shouts at me when i go for a fancy haircut”
Well, how much did that fancy hair cut cost?

“doesnt lets me make my own decision”
What decisions are you wanting to make? And more importantly…are they poor decisions?

“can anyone tell me how to make my mom know that i am grown up”
You’re grown merely because you’re 17? Listen carefully…it takes more than birthdays to make a man.

In most cases, when a parent treats their teenager like a kid, it's because they're acting/thinking like one. If you want your mother to treat you like a young adult, you have to behave like one.

Answer 3

Your attitude towards your mother tells me just how immature you are. You are 17, you are still a child. Your mother is still legally responsible for you and your actions.

If you want to make your own decisions, then get a job, move out of her house and financially support yourself with no help from her. Then you will officially be an adult.

Answer 4

Sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel. explain why you think she is still treating you like a child and how you would rather be treated. that you understand you will always be her little boy but she has to let you grow up. tell her what a great mom she is and what a wonderful job she has done raising you, and the fact that you are a responsible teen is a credit to her.

Answer 5

I think you need to sit her down and have a personal conversation with her and explain how you'll be going to college in a few months.
Here's what you tell her: "Mom, I know that you'll always want to take care of me but right now I'm seventeen and it feels like you're smothering me. I just want to be treated like a seventeen yr. old and make a few decisions on my own. Can I do things on my own, I'm not a little baby anymore. I'm always here for you but I need to do things for myself, okay?"

Answer 6

There is probably no changing her at this point. She is afraid of you making a bad decision, so she makes them for you, trying to keep you safe from harm. Hang in there, one more year and you can move out on your own and be free. A word of warning though, you might find out that she is right about a few things after all.

Answer 7

if you are only child she is probably doesnt want you to grow up because you are her little boy in her heart and she knows your going to be 18 sometime and move out on your own. sit down and explain to her that you are old enough to make your own decisions and your are very greatful that she will be there for you. when you do need help you will go to her. but you have to learn to make good and bad decisions on your own. just talk to her to make her understand.

Answer 8

Grow up and respect your mother. Do what she asks you to do. As long as you're still 17 and live in her house you are still supposed to do what she says without any back talk.