One of my best friends is my former minister. He is married with two children. He has always been there. We went to school together. I have not spent much time with him since I moved in with my boyfriend because I am not sure he can handle it. Now, my friend called today and wants to meet for lunch to discuss something. I really want to do this. Should I just tell myu bf I am going to do it or should I ask for permission.
2007-03-08 04:42:56 · 14 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
KIND OF TELL- ASK. IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN
2007-03-08 04:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time with living together if you are "committed" relationship, but not married! Anyway, to answer your question, yes, I'd tell your bf what's up! Is your old friend and former minister married? All four of you ought to meet for lunch!!
2007-03-08 04:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're going. If your bf trusts you (and if the friend really is a married minister why wouldn't he???) he should not have a problem with you meeting a friend for lunch.
2007-03-08 04:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is verbally abusive and is threatening actual abuse. The PTSD gained't make the damage to you, your son, or your daughter any a lot less painful. Your bf has an more suitable project to address, yet no man or woman else could be a sufferer of his subject matters. you're saying you recognize what you ought to do besides the undeniable fact that it truly is difficult. sure, it truly is difficult. besides the undeniable fact that it continues to be the right issue to do. in the different case, what is going to you tell your babies in 10 years? "i'm sorry you've had a nasty existence, yet I wasn't solid sufficient to do the right issue"? Or "My bf has PTSD, so as that made it ok for him to address you and me badly."? it truly is confusing to imagine what your existence will be like in case you go away the bf. imagine what existence will be like in case you do not go away. you won't be able to administration your bf, you won't be able to administration your son and what he thinks and feels, and also you are able to't administration your daughter and what she'll imagine and experience. you in reality have administration over your self, and also you've 2 little babies who're searching on you. BTW, your son is frequent. he's affirming some independence, and attempting to parent out the position the barriers are on his existence. it truly is very healthful for a 4 yo to do. He needs consistent loving preparation if he is going to stay a classic and respectful boy. as we talk, he's watching your bf deal with you disrespectfully, and he's getting to understand that you compromise for being treated that way. so some distance as your bf claiming you won't be able to contact him for something, it truly is no longer for him to decide. besides the undeniable fact that, in case you flow after him for baby help, he can ask for parenting time. So weigh that heavily. It sounds like your family members will be supportive and efficient if you're severe about cleansing up your act. on your babies' sake, and on your human being sake, please do.
2016-12-05 10:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with you going but I dont see why you should hide it. Just tell you b/f that your friend called and wants to catch up tell him about him. If he trusts you he should have no problem with it. Especially if he's married. I would go to see my friend but I would just tell my b/f if you fear he will get mad then you and your b/f have more than one thing you need to discuss
2007-03-08 04:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by cee_jae22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. do not go. A former minister? That on it's face is just wrong. He is a loser, or a liar but either way not worth it.
2007-03-08 04:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r grown! if he aint ya momma or daddy then u shouldnt have to ask. ya man dont rule u. u r ur own person, if he cant understand that then taht means he has to try. in my honest opinion, im with someone. he doesnt ask me to do nothin and vice versa unless we're out together but otherwise we are solo and we have 2 kids together. just be honest and he has to be patient. if he feel it's uncomfortable, ask him one question, do u trust me and love me?
2007-03-08 04:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by lilangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for permission??!?! If you are old enough to have kids then you certainly don't need to ask permission from anyone. Just go.
2007-03-08 04:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by lyllyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ... he is only a friend so what is the big deal. If your man loves you he will understand , you are allowed to have friends.
2007-03-08 04:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not necessarily ask for permission cause ur a grown woman but do tell him and make sure he is ok with it..definetely dont do it behind his back
2007-03-08 04:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are scared to go to lunch with one of your best friends just because of his gender? no man should be that possessive
2007-03-08 04:56:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋