What is going on?

Question

We r both married and say we will not have an affair nor r interestead in each other, however at work we are always joking talking, going for coffee. When talking to me she often touches me and sometimes hesitates touching me. When we work we work but when we play we do just as hard. When talking to me she is often in my space and often appears jumpy and recently there have been things if you dont do this I will swueeze the juice outa u or what do I get if and insinuations of can I see then I say yes then she says grioss. When on the phone we talk and one of us will say we have to go or don't u have to go then we talk even more. We from time to time buy each other drinks and talk personal. This week she was late for a meeting and on entering the room walked up to me looking for a place to sit and looked lost as if I should have kept an open space. Generally she will always sit next to me. Is there something happening we cannot control or is this imagination.

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you guys are friends who may be a bit attracted to one another. Just because you may be attracted doesn't mean you have to act on that attraction- and you probably shouldn't as you are both married. No reason to stop being friends though. If you find her behavior very disturbing, maybe you should just tell her what you have observed, let her know how you would feel if she was attracted to you/you were attracted to her (which I hope is a if we were uninvolved we might pursue it but since we are lets just be friends reaction) and see why she was really acting that way.

Answer 2

If you imagine that what is happening cannot be controlled, then yes - it is your imagination.

Your behavior (and hers) can be controlled. I would suggest you quit deceiving yourself and admit that your behavior toward this person is getting dangerously closer to really messing up your life, her life, your respective spouses, (children???), and it would be for giving in to the "lust" you two feel for each other. Perhaps it's time to go home and focus on your spouse. Are you putting as much effort in your marriage as you are in this flirtation? When was the last time you flirted with your spouse? Went on a date with your spouse? Sent a love note or flowers or called your spouse out of the blue just to express your love?

Be the adult and change your behavior toward your co-worker and give to your spouse what you were giving away to someone else. You will not be sorry.

Answer 3

sounds like you have a friend that likes to joke and flirt with you, why do guys always think a woman wants to jump in bed with them,, I have a good woman friend, they call her my office wife,, she might be mine if she was single but she aint, we are together all the time, she brings me food etc,,, doesnt mean she wants to jump in bed with me and have a affair,

Answer 4

She is an attention starved D*** tease,