My father just died at the end of January, and my mother is already seeing someone. He confessed to her about some skeltons in his closet before he died. We had all suspected these wrong-doings, but mom, at the time, pretended to believe him. She seems happier that he is gone. Even though dad was wrong, I feel that she is trying to erase him. I think this is all happening way too fast. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
2007-03-08 04:35:51 · 4 answers · asked by Starlight 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have told her that I am ok with the new man, and I would never be mean to him. I will accept him 100% because this is what mom wants. I just wanted to know if it is normal to feel this way.
2007-03-08 04:59:09 · update #1
Well, yes it is normal to feel the way you are feeling... but maybe she is happy since she was betryed by the man who was suppose to love her and only her... Maybe those skeltons where to much for her...............................
Just love you mother and respect her because she has good reasons for acting the way she is an doing what makes her feel happy.....
2007-03-08 05:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it's very common for a widow to meet someone very soon after their spouse dies. Have you tried to talk to your mom about your feelings? A lot of times when things are too painful to think about, we tend to put our focus elsewhere and it sounds like this is what your mom may be doing.
You are not wrong for feeling the way that you feel; you have just experienced a great loss and your feelings are completely normal. Maybe talking to a counselor may help or some sort of grief therapy. I think you need to be open and honest with your mom though about your feelings and go from there. I am so sorry for your loss. Good luck to you and take care.
2007-03-08 12:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what you feel about your mom's behaviour and relationships. Trying to persuade her would leave a lot of bitterness on the table. People have odd ways of dealing with grief. When people are married a long time, sometimes they need to test their appeal and worthiness to the opposite sex. Give her time and space.
2007-03-08 12:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can feel any emotion you wish. It is your choice.
2007-03-08 13:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋