I have always had a rather low self esteem (being shy), but I have changed that and now I am alittle more open, but I just ended a relationship horribly and I feel so alone. I was with that person for two years and they told me they did not like the person I was anymore.
2007-03-08 04:33:56 · 5 answers · asked by CrazyChic86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so sorry for your break up. It's hard to get motivated to do anything when you feel so horrible but you cannot dwell on what went wrong because you will never be able to get into his head and figure it out. This is what you HAVE to do:
1. Start excercising everyday for 30 min.
2. DO NOT call, write, or text your ex - if he calls you then be friendly but make it short. Do not beg, whine or plead with him.
3. Make plans with your friends.
4. Everytime you think of your ex, have something else to switch your mind to.
5. Make a point to smile at one person (especially a guy) everyday.-- your smile is a gift you give to others.
6. Think of a motto to tell yourself everyday...like "I am a wonderful, worthy person who anyone would be fortunate to know". Write it on your mirror so you will read it everyday.
Without exception, do this for 30 days. You will be amazed at who you are at the end of those 30 days. You will be fit and confident because you will have concentrated on making yourself better. You have to love yourself before anyone else can. God Bless You!
2007-03-08 04:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that you seek god or some kind of spiritual guidance because that is the only way that you will be able to love your self and bring your self esteem up. You should look for the strongholds that hold you back and try to overcome those. Also take care of yourself like others suggest, but none of that will work unless you realize and accept that there is a greater power that loves you and if you can accept that well you can do whatever you set your mind to. You are not alone you have a family who loves you and you have friends who care about you and you have that Higher Power that believes in you unconditionally. So buck up and Good Vibes!
2007-03-08 13:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by BooBear345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of self help books out there. Lots on self esteem.
There is a good book for depression called 'feeling good'
The reason I bring that up is because it' s not just helpful for depression. It' s all about cognitive therapy , which is changing the way you think , or distorted thoughts.
Like, my ex-boyfriend doesn't' t like who I am so I must not be likable.
this book teaches how to identify distorted thoughts like that, and then challenge those thoughts. It can be very helpful for a person with low self esteem because low self esteem is usually caused by the way we think about things.
2007-03-08 12:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Babu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do some things for yourself now. Get your hair done, go shopping, go to the gym etc. Depends on you what will help you feel better about yourself. After my last 3 yr relationship, I was very down on myself. I went back to the gym, (ended up losing alot of weight), got a new hairdo, new clothes and it raised my self esteem up. Know that you can support you and take care of yourself and you don't NEED a guy to validate your life. It's nice to have one there, but you can do it on your own! It will get better, don't dwell on his thoughts about you, people say things when they break up that aren't always the real feelings. His opinion of you isn't as important as your own opinion of you!
2007-03-08 12:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like debre's answer. Do some things nice for YOU, rediscover yourself. When you notice you're smiling alot (not faking it) you'll be in a whole lot better place.
2007-03-08 12:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by onefineham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋